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writes:So the guy that I was seeing ended things with his ex a few months before seeing me. (I didn't ask him about his past or anything.. I found out from him afterwards) We saw each other for two months when I told him that I was moving (just 20 minutes away from him). That's when things went downhill. He called me a summer fling. He asked me why I was with him. He thought I was just with him until I found someone better. The whole time, I thought he was joking. So I played back with him. A week later, he told me he had gotten back with his ex (the one HE ended things with). That relationship lasted about 2 weeks. (HE ended things with her... again!) He's been texting me every since (since August) to hang out with him. When I asked him about his ex, he said he still had feelings for her but he would never talk to her again because she screwed him over. (I didn't ask him how she screwed him over). Apart of me feels like- Yes, he ended things to be with his ex again. He thought things would be better with his ex and when they weren't he ran back to me.But a huge part of me feels like he ended things with me because I told him I was moving. The timing of when I told him and when he started to talk to his ex again are at the same time. According to him, he ended things with her and he knew she wanted to get back with him. So when I told him I was moving to the city, he went back to her. I woudn't be a "convenience" to him.Now I'm just confused. Was I a rebound girl or did he end things because I was moving?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): If he ended it because you were moving only 20 minutes away then he doesn't think there's much relationship potential with you. I don't think I've ever lived closer than 20 minutes from a guy I've dated and I live in a town of only 200,000 people. The guy I'm with now is planning to drive 14 hours to see me for New Years, then 14 hours back again. 20 minutes is no reason to end something if it's special or real. Maybe you were a rebound for him, maybe not, but either way he doesn't care much and you deserve way better.
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