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writes:Hi guys,Recently, my girlfriend broke up with me for a reason I didn't understand. Here's what happened. We were talking about her past (dating, first kiss, making out, etc.) Then she asked me, "did I turn you off?". The reason she said that because she had more dating experience than me. So I said no, in fact I envy you because you had a fun dating life back in high school. I didn't get to do that back in HS because I was choosy. Then she got mad at me, she told me from now on she will let me date other girls so I can make out with them. She also said, she didn't want to be the reason why I didn't get to do that in high school. So in my defense, I said, I didn't want that RIGHT NOW. I was just telling her that she had a better dating experience in high school than me. She also judged me by saying I'm the kind of guy that dates a lot of girls just to make out with them. But if you look at my record, I only been with 2 girls, one was my ex and her. My most current ex gf was my 'first'. I'd like to know if that was a good/valid reason to break up with me. By the way, we've been together for over a year. Thanks guys.
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reader, Cowboy255 +, writes (13 February 2010):
Yeah she's totally insecure Ididnt getvto read that follow up she assumed cuz she is insecure maybe something she doesn't like about herself u need to maybe make her feel special and know you like her and why
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reader, Cowboy255 +, writes (13 February 2010):
It sounds like she might just be in secure but when you say I was choosy hen but not now I can see how the fire started cuz ur not choosy now basically her thinking your one of those guys who guys 4 anyone for pleasure and shit or shethinks u thought she was ugly she seems a little insecure ya know but it never helps to argue about shit I don't know how it went down but try to talk it out I'm not going to tell u exactly what to say so good luck man if you wanna tryto get her back but it wasn't a good reason it was a missinderstanding that we t bad
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reader, weh +, writes (13 February 2010):
weh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmarieclaire, that's exactly what she said. She was scared that I might realized one day that I would just leave her and see other people. But I didn't mean it that way.
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reader, weh +, writes (13 February 2010):
weh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo there's no more to it. And yes I told her I don't want other girls, I want her, but she won't believe me..
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reader, weh +, writes (13 February 2010):
weh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, there's no more to it. The thing is she is ASSUMING that I want to go out with other girls and make out with them NOW. Just because I said she had a better dating experience in high school. But I made it clear to her that I want her, and not other girls, but she won't believe me.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 No, it's not a valid reason but for her it is. She is afraid you would judge her for being easy and not choosy. She probably had more dating experience because whenever guys don't find her to be perfect she breaks it off before anything could blossom. She seems very pushy and forceful too. Even if she didn't break up with you she would tell you want to think and feel, which is not what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Sounds to me like she's the one that's screwed up.
It sounds like she feels guilty about her past compared to yours, so she expects you to be bothered by it. And now that you claim not to be bothered by it, she's offended that you are lying to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): It's not a valid reason. However, she must have a fear of abandonment issue. Maybe the best thing to do is gently insist that you two get together again. Say that you can't play around because you choose her.
Saying that you envy what she did in HS was probably a mistake.
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