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writes:My wife has a male friend named X. She's been friends with him for years now, we now live a few hours apart, so we don't see him very often, but I've met him and we've all done things together a few times. The other day, we were shopping, and I picked up a 3 pack of mens blue briefs for me. I always wear white briefs, or boxers, so I thought, why not something different. My wife said, 'blue briefs, I love them, that what X always used to wear'. Now I have always just assumed that X was just a friend, now I'm thinking that maybe we need to sit down and talk about this. If there was more to the 2 of them, then I wouldn't have allowed X tostay here, as our friend, all this time, if they had a past. What do I say to her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): Yes you have the right to ask about why she knows that. Don't be a jerk but don't be apologetic about it either. If she's ever been to bed with him then you had the right to know about it. Even if it's long over with. Even if it was just one drunken mistake. That line has been crossed and it's lying to act like it hasn't been.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 If it were me, I too would want to know it they had been more than just friends. And, I don't think I would have maintained a friendship with an ex of my partners. Yeah, just ask her how come she knows the what kind of underwear X used to wear. If they did share more than friendship, just let her know how you feel. Then you can distance yourselves from X, easier now with the physical too.
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