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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So some background info ... Ive been with my partner for 2.5 years. Hes 38, i'm 33 Ive had 2 serious relationships before him and have never cheated on any of my partners. Hes had one serious relationship when he was about 25. This lasted three years. Hes had numerous relationships which have lasted between 2 and 6 months. He has cheated on all his partners except his long term girlfriend. Although did end this relationship as he liked someone else. I met my partner on a nightout and yes he had a partner at the time and yes he cheated on her with me. I knew all of this about him in the beginning and chose to go ahead and start seeing him anyway not expecting anything serious. Anyway 2.5 years later we live together and everything is really good! Ive never had any reason to suspect any cheating and truly thought i fully trusted him. Until ...A few days ago we were chatting about a mutual friends facebook update. My phone battery had died so i asked him to pass his which he did, i opened the facebook app and went to type this persons name in search bar and up came a history of recent people he had searched for on facebook. This list included ex girfriends, as well as various other attactive girls most of which he wasnt friends with on facebook so he had obviously looked these girls up. It might sound like nothing but its made me feel sick to my stomach. I havent mentioned anything. Should i be worried thats hes looking for someone to cheat with? What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Sorry hun, but he's not a one woman type of guy.
Even in the long term relationship that he was in, it didn't work out precisely because he is not happy with having one woman. It's great that he did the decent thing and broke up with her first then pursued the other woman.
But it's still true that loyalty is one of his principles.
He may or may not be looking to cheat with the girls you saw but the real question is can you live with asking yourself this question for the rest of your life?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 March 2015):
 What should you do? You should keep your [insert my name]. You've observed first hand his cheating ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Yes, OP,we've got that.But even though he did not technically cheat on his long-term partner and just left her for someone else... Well, the fact he left her for someone else without a 2nd thought to her feelings shows an incredibly big degree of selfishness and self-centeredness. He did not CARE one iota about how his behaviour might affect her. Would YOU be HAPPY if he LEFT YOU for SOMEONE ELSE?Think about that for a sec.Not cheating,right? But it'll hurt like a bitch if he does it to you.And he did cheat on a partner WITH YOU. And now you expect him not to cheat ON YOU??? o_Ops: btw, he sounds like a very insecure man= one that will not leave an OLD relationship until there is someone NEW to replace that person with,which means he can't be ALONE. Ever. Weak,weak,weak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Op here. He didnt cheat on his long term ex girlfriend. But cheated on the others.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): You expect a zebra to change its stripes?!
And become what? A dream white horse on which he rides to you ,and you only, as Prince Charming?!
= he cheated on everybody, BUT you somehow still think that YOU are the exception to the rule. Why?!!
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