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anonymous
writes:Hi thanks for reading guys I need advice. On wed me and my ex spend the night together, we went for a meal a few drinks and was best night we ever had, he was so loving told me he can't imagine his life without me. Was incredible met some of his work friends was like we were together again. On thurs we both were working but we kept messaging each other was amazing. But today He is out on a shag do. I understand and want him to have a great time but I've heard nothing but he has seen my messages. I'm not needy, not messaging every 5 mins, but just one saying hello at least would be nice. Do I leave him and see if he replays tomorrow or was he just being an ex and using me for night? I really need help because I love him so much and want to try again but need help so my heart doesn't rule before my head. Thanks guys
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (24 July 2017):
 My advice is do not message him again. It's not your job to do the chasing and you will make yourself feel awful for it.
He will contact you when he feels the need to contact you but until then, you shouldn't worry about it.
Do not stress yourself out over the situation.
You may want to revisit why the two of you broke up in the first place because only you know what he is truly capable of. We cannot predict what type of a person he is based on what you've told us here...
BUT..
Wait it out and see what happens.
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 July 2017):
 He is an ex for a reason, why revisit it? There was a reason that you broke up in the first place so why would you fall back into the old routine and possibly get yourself started in an on/off relationship?
If someone wants to speak to you, they will do.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 July 2017):
 You need to ignore him. Whatever the reason you you shouldn't chase him. He was on a full-on night out with the boys after all. Depending on the level of excess he could be recovering for up to three days.
If his proclamation of love for you was true then he will be in contact as soon as he is fit. If he was just saying stuff then you don't want to be seen to be chasing him do you? That would make you look desperate.
Give it a little time. Be patient and see what happens.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (23 July 2017):
 Maybe I am just not switched on today or I am living in another world but you said you went out to dinner with your ex (nothing wrong with that, as you said it was the best night you ever spent with him, as you said you met some of his work friends so I don't take it you ended up in bed or should I be reading between the lines here, You go on to say you sent each other quite a few SMS which is fine nothing wrong here, Then comes " But today He is out on a shag do" what the hell is a shag do or is this wrong spelling for a stag do? if he was out at any type of DO and if he was drinking or did not recharge his phone he will not be getting your SMS, OK I see you would like to have him back and when you had dinner and started sending SMS it opened the flood gates just try keep cool and if it is going to happen it will
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