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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend, of a year and 8 months, last week. Througout our relationship he has cheated 4 times, mistreated me, lied to pe, played games, and disrespected me. Everytime he cheated i took him back and regardless of how he was doing me i still love him. One weekend he was suppose to have came up with my mother to come see me because im in college or whatever. so i asked him was he still coming because he had already promised me he was coming to see me. so i asked him and he was like no because he wanted to go out of town to this big football game. and right then i just got so pissed and i just let him go. and it seems to me he wanted that. yes i've tried getting back with him 'til this day but he was telling me he's not about to run back to me trying to get back with me because he didnt break up with me. and i was like omg are you serious because every single time he broke up wit me i always came back running and begging him. but now i've been crying my eyes out because i really want to be with him but i see he's not worried about that anymore. i know he done me wrong in the past but im trying to get over him but it's very hard. he's very unappreciative. i be worrying about the bad things he did to me and who all he's talking to now. im just so hurt and confused right now. i want to move on but i cant. please someone help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): You can do this. He treated you terribly, and you should never have taken him back in the first place. It's better this way, I promise you. It doesn't matter who he's talking to now, or what he's doing-what matters is YOU. You deserve to be treated so much better than that, and what's more important, you need to believe you deserve to be treated better than that. You don't want to be with a guy who cheats, lies, and then doesn't even care that you broke up with him, do you?! He never really had feelings for you at all, and he's not going to change. Be glad that you got out when you did, and didn't waste any more time on him.
What you need to do now is build up your self-esteem. Spend time with people that care about you. Do things you enjoy doing. Buy some new clothes or try some new makeup. Focus on school, and building your future. Don't let him trample all over you anymore, and if he tries to contact you, don't answer! Always remember you are a good person, you're going to learn from all this, and try to move on a little bit every day.
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