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writes: I want to leave my current BF alone but dont know how to do so! He is a very sensitive guy and he told me when his last GF called it quits he got depressed and even suicidal. We have been dating for eight months know and I don't see it going anywere. First of all its a LDR, he just had a new born child, lost his job, and everything I say to him his response is "LIAR" I feel that he is 400 miles doing whatever he damn please to do but when I come home he makes plans and don't stick with them....... I am tired of the BS my EX and BF are friends somewhat!!! I miss my ex so bad and I dont know what to do.......But I am going to tell him face to face I don't feel the relationship going anywhere and I want out.....ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO TELL HIM
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reader, JLO22 +, writes (2 January 2007):
JLO22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still did not get the guts to tell him yet! But I will by the end of the week???
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 January 2007):
 You must tell him. He must not be allowed to emotionally blackmail you into feeling bad about wanting to split up. He has already set the scene for this by telling you how he reacted to his ex splitting up with him.
Tell him when he is not under the influence of any sort of substance, like alcohol or drugs. And if you have made your mind to tell him then you absolutely must stick to it. If you don't and you allow yourself to be swayed by sofet words and crying it will be worse for you to finish next time....and there will be a next time because if you already feel like this now you really are not meant to be together.
If he is away from you then maybe you could tell him over the phone or in a letter? I don't noramlly advocate this sort of thing, but to be honest if you are worried he may emotionally manipulate you when he is with you this could be the answer?
Anyhow, let us know how things go. All the luck you need coming your way matey!!
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (1 January 2007):
 There is not easy way of breaking up with anyone.
Face to face and the sooner the better is my advice. The longer you leave it, the worse it will get. He may be depressed but you cannot live a lie and make anyone happy if you are not happy yourself.
Whatever the words, be honest with him. Tell him that it is not working out, you are not meant to be together.
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