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writes:There's a girl that I love more the world. But there is one problem, and thaty is she is (bi-sexaul.)(We are just best friends and are not going out or dating.) It sucks though because she has a girlfriend and doesn't give any sign of slowing down. I have never loved anyone more than her. It's crazy because I think of her all the time and put her before myself. The thing is that I'm sarting to get discouraged; How long to I have to wait for them to be over with? Normally things go great until she tells me about her their weekend together. Like when she told me that they had tooken a shower together just for the fun of it. It felt like my heart exploded out of my chest. She didn't and doesn't realize that when she tells me stuff like that how bad it hurts me, but after that she always does something to make my day oh so better than the last. I mean she britens my world. I've been waiting forever for them to be done with. I keep telling myself that I'll give it only one more week, but I always change my mind. Am I barking up the wrong tree, or is this just a lost cause? Can anyone help me?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear of your dilemma.
I hate to have to say this, but if she is bi-sexual and involved with this other woman, it really sounds as if you could literally wait forever for them to break up - and even then, assuming they do, she may well find another girl.
She most likely values you as a friend, but no more than that. Again, I'm sorry because I know this is painful to hear. The longer you keep it up, the more you'll be torturing yourself......
I hope you do decide to give it up, and of course mourn for a time your lost hopes. Eventually, I hope, you'll meet a delightful woman who will love you for yourself, and vice versa......but be patient about that, and don't rush into a new relationship until you're good and ready.
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reader, schulz +, writes (20 February 2011):
Have you tried telling her how you feel? I think that if you don't act on your feelings, this situation can go on indefinitely...
Just tell her how you feel, and be prepared for her answer. Just as she might be interested, she may tell you she doesn't see you like that, but at least you get some closure and move on. Let us know how it goes!
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