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writes:Hi.......how can a person who you loved so dearly one day and something ticked him off, he made up these things in his head he became overly jealous, he is going through a terrible loss and not in his right mind. BUt that gave him no excuse to disrespect me. I miss him although he hurt me and he knows it. We do I still care for this person and miss him dearly!! He hasn't called and I refuse to call he broke it off!!! but I do worry..help
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): I thik he has issues honey... as painful as it is now, he is showing where his true loyalties lie.. PLease try not to fel hurt by his treatment, please understand he is a jerk if he treated you like this.. I know consoling words might not mean nmuch to you now, but please try to draw strenght from the fact that you are better off without such half-a-person like he seems to be..
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reader, queeny63 +, writes (20 May 2009):
queeny63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI haven't heard from my ex in almost 2 months, how can he dislike me so much.
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reader, queeny63 +, writes (20 May 2009):
queeny63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is a reserved person. He is in law enforecment, so he does not open up much. He is 45, married when he was 19 and was married for 17 years until his exwife cheated on him left and right. He wanted this marriage to work, he bought her a house they have a son together, he gave her everything. He worked very hard and has been working he says since he was 14, he thought he was going to be married forever. Although she cheated he tried to work it out for the sake of the child who is 22 now. He was devestated after she moved out while he was at work. The divorce was nasty. He became bitter and a loner. So he suffers from trust issues. Five years ago he dated another woman who had 4 children with diff fathers, how or why he got involved with her thats his problem but she played him and boom after their breakup she called him 3 months later and she was pregnant. The new child is a toddler. Then he met me. I love him, and wanted to show him that there are good people out there, and that I did not want anything from him but his time and love. For 3 years it was good and bad. I am a communicator and he is not. If he would get upset at me, he would shut down and I would not hear from him in days, he lives 2 hours away, I could not pick up and go I have a child. He cheated on me with the child's mother, it was devestating...why he did this? He said he wanted to forget it and move on, it was difficult but I took him back with distrust always in my heart and mind. He is a correctional officer and I tell him not to treatment me like an inmate lol..he acts like a little kid and loves to be pampered which I did he never had this done to him. But then he could turn solemn and would withdraw, we have had our ups and downs and we worked it out. Almost 2 months ago his brother and father died within 3 days, he was very stoic, but in one day he turned ugly towards me, accusing me of flirting and cheating with the men at the funeral. He said horrible and hurtful things to me and said he never wanted to see me again. I was devestated and angry. I left him 3 messages one may have been hurtful, and may have bruised his ego. But he bruised mine, I was there for him holding his hand during this tragedy. I gave him unconditional love. After a few weeks I called and he does not answer my calls. Which is hurtful because we spoke constantly all day, He's made me cry so much and I've told him love should not hurt, now I miss him..why he hates me so much. Everything he is thinking are all lies he is paranoid. Til today I should forget about him, but I pray to God that he will think of me and realize that I was there for him when things were bad and when things were good. And I should get an apology.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Hi... I am just out of a 4 years relationship with a man similar to the one you talk about. When it was great it was great, yet the mind games, the turnin gon me, these betrayals, took their toll on me. My ex has been sxually abused as a child and I think that was why he was like that. It looks like oyu are taking some emotional abuse there, please giveus more details as to why he turns on you, or the backround, it would be easier to undertsnad.
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