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writes:So I'm a virgin. And I've attempted sex twice. Both times we tried with me on top once and missionary once. Both times it just.. Wouldn't go. I know I'm really tight. Masterbating even hurts. I'm a bigger girl and he's a little chubby. Would that had something to do with it? Last time I tried it felt like it was about to go.. But I just couldn't push my body close enough. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, djmanny64  +, writes (24 July 2009):
I've had a few problems in the past before with girls like this but I think the best thing to do is to start foreplay before and become 'wet' in other cases before you try sex. If you didn't know its vertually impossible to have sex whilst it is dry because it just won't go in. Try foreplay first and let him take control of your body and help you relax. If you are not relaxed and don't enjoy it then it probably won't work because your not getting pleasured enough to feel wet. You can try other things like lube/vaseline. My girlfriend is quite tight at first and I use vaseline because it's easier to slide in and more pleasurable for her and myself.
For having sex for the first time is not really a good idea for you to take control at this point on top. It will be easier if he took control and was ontop for the first few times till you open up a little bit then you can consider trying different positions.
If this hasn't worked try going to doctors and getting advise there.
Hope this Helps
Steve x
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 July 2009):
It's hard to say what might be the issue here, but I'd like you know that you'll find a solution, and a good sex life is something that you're worthy of, so please don't give up. I'd suggest getting an appointment with your gynecologist, and visiting with her about the situation. You will NOT be the first person that she's heard this from, and odds are really good that she'll be able to give you some advice. I've had one friend who was small down there, but we made it work. She (a small girl) had to use the smallest vibrator I'd ever seen, but we were able to get it to work for us, and I'm a big guy (in both senses).Keep in mind your body is designed to birth a baby - you can stretch. What you might be experiencing could be physical or psychological (you could be clapping up w/o knowing it), but please know that either way there are easy solutions.The most important thing is to relax, and enjoy the play, worrying about it is not part of the solution. It will be interesting to see what some of the females here have to say
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