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writes:my boyfriend broke up with me a little less than three weeks ago. the only problem we ever had was that he didn't think he was good enough for me. (i have a few college degrees and family money, he dropped out of high school and is broke) but he has a wonderful heart and is a really good person and i am completely in love, he is everything i have ever wanted and more. when he broke up with me he cried the entire time(and he is not the kind of guy to cry), i was in the middle of a sentence and he interuprted to say " baby i stilll love you" and when i was leaving i said goodbye, and he brokedwon and cried harder than i have ever seen a guy cry in my entire life and said "i don't want to say goodbye".the reason he gave me for breaking up was he felt like he wanted to be alone (depression) and that he wanted to fix things in his life, like get a better job and he needed to focus.a few days after we broke up he txted me to ask a question about flying home after he moved his mother a few states away(he has never been on a plane), a few days after that he txted me again asking for direct help getting back, and in the end i offered to come pick him up and then he asked me to come for the entire weekend. so a week and a half after we break up i help him move his blind mother and we spent four nights together, and stopped by his father's ranch hosue for two days. and the entire time he was acting like a boyfriend calling me baby, kissing me sweetly, being extra considerate. and then he was talking to his brother about the two of them having lots of kids to grow the family and without hesitation he looked over at me and said "are you ready to have five kids" but we aren't together, but he is still asking me to have kids? he said he thinks its better if we are just friends, but in every other way it seems like more. and i dont know how i can get him back? when verbally he is telling me no, but emotionally telling me yes. i want him back - being with him is like being home
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This literally crushes my heart...and...I know the impact it is having upon you, as it is for these same reasons that potential partners decide not to invest in me. It is a very hurtful and horrible warped rejection. It's horrible. I've come to a point where I don't even tell potential suitors that I have higher degrees etc, as I don't want to risk frightening them away, especially since 99 percent of those who catch my attention are either high school drop outs or hold a high school degree. Fame, fortune, education and status is highly overrated, and it really makes me vomit how it is these things that some people base their self-worth upon. This bullshit is so shallow and pathetic. It has no place in my world when it comes to embracing, cherishing and loving a person. And as far as love, it's about substance. Honest to God, I would proudly marry an honest, trustworthy, compassionate, respectful, toothless, limbless, penniless, uneducated, nappy-headed or bald-headed troll who lives in a tattered Fridgedare cardboard box then a deceitful, disrespectful, cold-hearted, handsome prince who lives in a solid-gold castle trimmed with diamonds.I'M SERIOUS!Please have a heart to heart with your friend and make him know the truth of your love for him and how fame, fortune, status and education don't mean shit, because in the end all that shit means nothing!!!!Love Is Substance and Your Friend Has Substance! He needs to know how much you love him and need him in your life. He makes you happy and that's what counts! He is the wealthiest of all because he has HAPPY POWER and even all of your money combined with the rest of the money in the world can't buy that, right? AMEN NOW!
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reader, Abella +, writes (29 January 2011):
 it sounds like he is still your guy, in an emotional sense. And that he misses you very much.
But a guy has his pride. He has some hope that he can make you proud by improving his lot in life. So he can be the equal of who he thinks you are.
He clearly thinks very highly of you.
Try to schedule some more time with him.
If he has depression then he needs immediate professional support. Depression is horrible, and very bleak for an (untreated) depression sufferer. Please try to do all you can to encourage him to get that support.
Depression is a deadly serious illness, treatable, but more injurious to a person's health and long term health if it
is not treated.
Again have a talk to him, about all your feelings. Again ask him to give your relationship another chance, since you miss him so much. Let him know that in your mind he is just as good as you. He is neither superior nor inferior. That in your view he has all the qualities you admire and love.
the path of true love often has twisys and turns. Hang in there.
Hope it works out,
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