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writes: Alright guys. Simple question. I need tips. I can't have orgasms during sex. Clitoral orgasms are fine. My boyfriend is amazing at giving me those with his fingers, but penetrating does nothing? Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): My Wife had this problem also. My wife could not have a vaginal orgasm and did not enjoy vaginal intercourse. She never masturbates nor had she ever due to religious beliefs. She was able to have orgasms thru oral sex and we frequently did that. One day I was thinking about a way to incorporate clitoral stimulation into intercourse. So we started out with her on top and she would lay down flat on my chest and raise her legs on top of my legs to enable herself to put more pressure onto clitoris. So she was able to achieve a clitoral orgasm. After time she able to orgasm more and more quickly until she achieved her first vaginal orgasm. If my description is not very good on how we did it imagine that you are having dry sex on top of your man but naked and with his penis penetrating you.
I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Ive been married for 10 years now and half of that time during sex could never quite make it happen for the missus. after finding self control and taking the time to feel her response to diff movements, it all came clear "literally". if you have this prob communication and practise is the key
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 The majority of the nerve endings for the vaginal region are not actually in the vagina itself (can you imagine how much WORSE childbirth would be if they were?) They are on the outside round the clitoris and the labia. You are really not alone in finding that penatrative sex alone doesn't do it for you! If you have no trouble with climaxing if he uses his fingers or tongue on you then you shouldn't really worry. Have you tried it doggy/lying on your front and letting him play with you with his hand underneath as well? It often works that way and he gets to penatrate you as well. Experiment and find what works for you.
Good luck and have fun.
xx
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 It is very normal for women to have a hard time having a vaginal orgasm. Yet a pure vaginal orgasm is an amazing thing to experience.
When a woman has sex it is 50% in her head, Men are seduced by tactile sensations, sight, touch, etc. Women are seduced by their brains. To get what you want, first and foremost complete trust has to be there. Then find the things that turn you on, dirty talk, sensual massage, costumes. etc. Then clear your mind, relax, take your time and practice a lot, it will happen.
The clitoris orgasm is the easy way out. As some have pointed out there are little tricks to force it, masturbate, a vibrator and then use the climax to force a vaginal orgasm. It is not quite the same as a pure vaginal orgasm but you get the idea.
An anus orgasm is not the same. The act of anal intercourse can hurt and can cause damage in certain people. It is also very easy to get infections from this type of sex. Though for some people it is their favorite orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): y dnt u ave anul sex it is just as enjoyable and feels really good
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): hi,
if u cant have sex, y dnt u try 2 do it up the bum hole
i tryed n it felt rely good.
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reader, Softie +, writes (19 April 2006):
 Hi, I definitely agree with trying different positions. A lot of women said being on top actually stimulates them better. Most women have their G-spots at different places. Some have it much farther back and some have it easier to reach. I would say try some toys like dildos and such WITH him so you can both find out where your spot is. Also, this is from personal experience. If you masturbate often, try stop doing it for a few days. Intercourse seems to be more stimulating and effective then (to me at least). Finally, foreplay usually does wonders. Orgasm is kind of like the top of a pyramid that needs a bit of climb to get to. Have him use his fingers to take you close yet not reach it a couple of times, then try intercourse. This should help.Hope this isn't too detailed for everyone. Lol. Good luck to you.Softie
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2006): Well i understand where your coming from on this oneallof that but really you should try diffrent postitions. I agree with the following statment using hands and sex toys help alot. Using your boyfriends big toe is actually quite stimulating. When i had this problem i thought i was abnormal because all my friends were tellin me how erotic orgasms were and i had never experienced one, now i have the best sex life and have no problems with orgasms at all.
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reader, lea22dc +, writes (18 April 2006):
I had the same problem. I use to dsask myself why can my friends have a vaginal orgasm, but I can't. After questioning my friends, I found out that from the time they started masterbation up til now, it was vaginal. Whereas, mine was clitorial. I wasn't as use to vaginal penetration and had big gap(meaning years) in my sexual experiences. What worked for me is having clitorial stimulation at the same time of intercourse. Use your fingers, his fingers or there are toys that you can wear, that vibrate the clit. sooner or later you won't need as much clitorial stimulation.
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