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30-35,
*alana
writes:hi All,So I have this friend whom I'm not friends anymore but I invited her into my home and helped her out because she was kicked out of her home and my boyfriend was in Virginia living with family. After four months my boyfriend moved in while the female was still there and there was also another male friend of mine who moved in too. They were all helping me pay bills and soon after everyone got settled my two other friends began dating and having sex, the whole nine. Everything was fine for a while but then my friend moved out without even telling me and did not pay the lasts month rent, however it was just for two weeks and there is no paperwork to prove it. I thought that since we were friends I didn;t have to worry about this, but I was wrong. Now that she has moved out and I'm pissed she and my boyfriend continue to communicate. This makes me very angry and sometimes I just cannot take it so I lash out at him. They mainly text about the Bible and certain scriptures but they also ask each other how they're doing and she asks him for advice about things. Am I over reacting? Should I just not care that they still speak? Should I be worried?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 That was very noble of you to open your arms and take her in..Did you call her to collect half the rent she still owes you?
I see your friend is having a hard time choosing her path in life, and has been on the rocky one for quite a while. She's texting your boyfriend about the Bible because it's possible she has finally chosen the right path to be on in life. So don't take it as she's trying to take your man away from you, she's just in need of spiritual advice and counseling. Because you took her in, she has left a better person thanks to you.
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reader, marymomnwife +, writes (25 October 2010):
once my husband and i had a 3way with this 19 yr old female. afterwards they continued to be friends and talk and text. i also talked to her and her mother on occasion. i stopped talking to her after she had a moment in her life that she created and the state took her kid. my husband still talked to her and even gave her rides home from her moms job which he worked there too. one day i got so insecure about them that i told him that them hanging out made me uncomfortable. he immediatly stopped and appologized. we havent talked to her since. SOMETIMES thats all it takes is to approach the situation in a calm non threatening manor. dont 4get to mention that u dont think he is or would ever cheat on u but u just dont feel comfortable with him talking to someone who would stiff u in any form. remember dont approach in a judgemental way that is the shortest trip to a fight filled with fireworks. if he cant accept ur feelings then the relationship is just headed 4 more trouble. good luck
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