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writes:why are relationships so hard to maintain?how can you tell when a guy is only using you for sex?can a boy be to good to be true? -help? xxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 I think the real answer to your question lies in how your male partner is treating you.
If he is good to you, tends to listen to what it is that interests you and wants to be with you both in and out of bed, its a safe bet he is into you enough that its not just sex.
Everything's a matter of degrees and you're right there and we aren't. With little else to go on you need to see if he's sensitive to your needs.
But remember, if you assume he's in it for the sex, then you will never be able to take an interest in him at all because of the lack of trust.
Intimacy and trust are the ingredients to a good relationship. But outright sex is not the basis for one, but it is a big element in the scheme of things. Don't confuse love with sex. One's a subset of the other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): To satindesire ...Men??!! this is a child we are talking about!!!
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (14 August 2009):
 To be honest the easiest way is to leave the sex part at the start of a relationship.
Get to know eachother, date and spend time together. Ask him questions about things he likes etc and really get to know him.
Im not saying wait months but give yourself a month if possible to get to know this person.
You should be able to judge how things are going in this time and see if he keeps pursusing sex. If he does just tell him you would like to get to know him first.
He will either drift away or make an effort with you.
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