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*iceprincessx
writes:I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age.I don't really understand body language. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and my teacher started being harsh to me and him. The same week I finished it with the boy and we drifted apart, and my teacher started being nice again. Whenever a boy at my college got close to me or flirted, he would get very moody with me. I got the tag name of teachers pet, because he would let me get off with everything. I would find him staring at me from the other side of the room.He is always complimenting me, for example one day I came in with a different hairstyle and he was saying how lovely it was and touching it. Then someone else had theirs done, and he didn’t bother saying anything to her. He’s always touching/flicking my hair and saying how nice my perfume smells. I have him this year and we have gotten closer. One time something was upsetting me and he told me, they have to go through him to get to me. He’s very protective of me, and at first I thought he saw me as a daughter figure, but now it seems that he wants something more. He knows that I fancy him (well last year) and he made it worse by getting closer.There are so many other things he does, but I’m not going to bore you any longer. We do flirt a lot, especially the whole bickering thing that students have in high school/college. I’m just confused about what this teacher wants. Does this guy have a crush on me, or is he just being a teacher? Thank you for readingUPDATE:So I'm writing the next part of the question as it's been like 4-5weeks now.It's kinda getting a bit crazy now as one of my friends likes me and my teacher isn't that happy about it.He's even warned the boy to back off from me which I think is stupid,as this Is my personal life!even though I've made it clear I dont like my friend back.My teacher gets really jealous when guys approach or I talk about them and starts asking all these questions.Then giving me random compliments saying how pretty I am :/.I still catch him staring at me especially when I'm around with male friends.So what is this strange behaviour?From what I can see he has feelings for me but I need your opinion from the outside.Thank you for reading
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 May 2011):
 I think he is being more than a teacher now and it is getting scary, his behaviour is totally inappropriate and you need to do something about it.
I cant say if he has a crush on you, if he has feelings with you....etc because no-one apart from him knows what is going on inside his head. However any teacher, male or female, knows that it is illegal to have a relationship with ANY student, regardless of the students age. Teachers are well aware that they can lose their jobs and end up on the sex offenders register if they act inappropriately around a student.
Therefore this indicates that this man is mentally unstable, as he is clearly disregarding logic and following whatever bizarre thoughts are going on in his head. I'm not going to say he is a pedophile or he is going to sexually abuse you, because I simply cannot make claims like that. However it is a possibility that he is a pedophile or there is a chance he could end up sexually abusing you, so you need to be very cautious.
What we do know for certain is:
a) teachers are WELL aware of the legal implications of pursuing a student
b) this man is ignoring that logic and knowledge, and is instead acting inappropriately around you and is interfering in your personal life.
Therefore this man is not normal and you need to be very wary of him, if this continues it could get a lot worse and you could get hurt. Now I dont know if you will want to report him or not (that would be the right thing to do) but if you dont, I suggest you speak to him (in a public place at school, never be alone with this man in private) and ask him to back off as he is interfering in your private life and you find it inappropriate. Hopefully if you speak to him and explain you are uncomfortable with his behaviour then he will back off and leave you alone. But ideally you should report this to a school counsellor or a senior member of staff, they will be able to deal with it properly and make sure you are safe.
Dont be flattered by this attention or think it is cute - as I have said before any grown adult who is a teacher knows how very wrong this behaviour is, therefore to not have any cares about being imprisoned or losing your job indicates a fairly severe mental instability. You need to be very careful around him, he could well be a danger to you and other students.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Playing a father figure and a flirt. That's kinda gross IMO
I'd change classes and let him know that if he gets in the way of any of your future boyfriends that you'll report him to the Dean. Don't take anything he says seriously, don't let him touch you. Don't let him flirt with you. Just get out of the class period. His pampering my have you feeling special, but listen, you already know you're special. Do not allow this person to dictate anything to you. This is not a person you should respect. You should respect his teaching skills. PERIOD.. Also be advised that once you start to tell him off he'll put the pressure on. Make sure you have some back up, friends, parents, etc.. This person sounds like he is grooming you. Other girls would be onto him like bees to honey and totally avoid his advances. You'll get a bad reputation over this if you don't deal with it immediately.
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