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writes: My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a couple of days ago, as he is still in love with his ex and wants time to get over her. They were together for 7 years and were engaged, but she slept with someone else and he fininshed things with her about 7 months ago; we had been together for about 3 months. He says that he would never get back with her as he does not trust her and that he really wants to be with me, but thinks that he can't until he gets 'closure' from his last relationship. When we were actually breaking up, we both agreed that we couldn't just be friends and hang out until he gets over his ex; he said that he didn't expect me to wait for him, but that he would try and find me when he has sorted his feelings for his ex out, and that, even if I happen to be with someone else, he will fight for me.Now I can't bear not being able to see him and not having any contact with him until one day when he miraculously enters my life again. I've now told him that I think I will be able to be friends with him, but I'm not sure if this is actually possible and whether hanging out as friends and still getting to know each other better will have any benefit?Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2005): Hi anonymous,
Well, I think you are a lucky girl to met this honest guy. I had been with my bf for 1 year before finding out by myself that he IS still in love with his ex. It was devastated.
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reader, x-clare-x +, writes (6 April 2005):
Okay, number one, I think it is highly unlikely that he is actually over his ex, number two, he is probably right that he shouldn't be with you if he can't sort out how he feels abput their breakup and nomber three, Do you really want someone that is like that anyway? It sounds as if his heart was never in the relationship with you anyway. I really think that you just need to concentrate on yourself and have some fun being single at the moment. Having a boyfriend can seem like the most important thing at times but trust me, its not. The fun you can have looking for the right guy can be amazing. I don't mean go and have wild passionate sex with every guy that comes along but put yourself out there and take advantage of the fact that you have no one to answer too. Someone who is more worried about how he feels for is ex isn't worth spending time pondering over. The right guy will come along soon enough then all this will seem like a waste of time to you. Just don't get your hopes down!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2005): i think you should leave it for now and keep it cool for a start if he has still got feelings for his ex then things could get messy i wish you all the best and if you feel like he is the one for you then wait but try and have some fun in the mean time ok.
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