A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am in a weird situation. My co-worker gives me all kinds of indicators of interest and for the longest time I didn't want to return any, because I nearly got fired from my last job because my supervisor wanted me. My current co-worker, started flirting with me, by commenting about my ass, by asking me to come into the office and bring her a coffee. (I'm never at the office, I work outside the office) By teasing, and testing me. In which, I would laugh so hard because I would see it a mile away. She even lied about her age, saying she was 30, when she's really 26, and btw I'm 36. Eye contact is huge with us. So much so, that other people will leave us alone as we chat and stare at each other. I actually accidentally added her to facebook, which she readily accepted. Then eventually I started to show some interest, and now she backs off and acts bitchy. Anytime I suggest we hang out, or do something she just seems weird. Its awkward, because I don't want to ask her out in front of everyone. She even gets real sad, if I don't go into the office and talk to her for a week or two. Now it's gotten to the point where she is bitchy all the time. Last week I teased her and said she should buy me lunch, which she got annoyed with. My friends say I should ask her out, but I feel weird in this situation. Because inter office dating is frowned upon, and it seems to be affecting my confidence around her. Knowing I shouldn't ask her out. Maybe she feels as I do, and doesn't want to date a coworker. That's understandable. What should I do? Thanks
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Honestly I would keep "romance" out of the work place. A chit-chat is fine a little flirting CAN be OK, as long as you don't overdo it.
The fact that she seems to blow hot & cold would make me pause and not take it any further.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (13 August 2012):
 This scenario happened to me quite a few times and I was also puzzled for this illogical female behaviour which doesn’t make any sense. Over time I realized that these women never had a genuine interest; they were manipulative teasers who like to play mind games with men. Wouldn’t you be thrilled if the woman you were interested reciprocated? Would you risk making her to loose interest with a nasty behavior? No right? You would only do that to someone you would toy with, and that is exactly what this woman is doing: she is toying with you! Be very careful my friend. I know how those male hormones react to those teasers’ “fake promising staring in the eyes” and fake sweet talks but try to maintain you dignity. How to react? Easy, ignore her! Above all AVOID any eye contact and don’t fall into her trap if she ever tries to fool you again. If she is really, truly interested she will find a way to prove it to you trust me. Best wishes!
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