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writes:Hellook this is a long story so thanks for patience! i'm on an apprenticeship at the moment but in a few months i'm returning to university. I have visited through the year and found out this guy who is in my year and is a friend, really fancied me and he had been emailing me lots etc. I was so flattered and one night when i visited we sort of 'hooked up'. we've been staying in touch via facebook and email etc but whats happening now is i regret agreeing to going out with him - i've told him we'll see how it goes, but i can just see myself being in an unhappy relationship and its my fault i know i shouldn't have led him on but i have very low confidence and was so flattered at the time, but i'm just not attracted to him - he's a lovely guy but from my newfound confidence from apprenticeship i now want to meet other people - i'm at uni and have loved being single, i don't know what came over me! All my friends at uni are one big group and there is so much gossip about this ahhhh furthermore i've changed a lot i.e. am more confident so no longer have much in common with my uni friends anymore - they would always put me down etc. - he's a good and funny friend and i wish i kept it that way. its not a long term relationship or anything in fact i've only seen him few times this year and he's already bugging me for sex!!!?? i'm still a virgin and i've told him this! as soon as anyone gets pushy i get repelled..., he also makes me visit him and its a 6hour journey by godawful train...he's so immature as well... lol already i'm moaning about him...so my plea is how to tell him i don't want to go out with him anymore?? it would be easy but its the fact he is a friend AND on my course ahhhh i'm not going to do this mistake again!thank you so much for reading all this... any advice is greatly appreciated...
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (15 July 2010):
Well you already said how you can exit on this one. he's wanting sex and is pushy sorry honey, but to inform you that it is your body not his. so don't do anything you don't want too! and don't feel you owe him anything if you are not happy you just tell him the truth that there is no attraction on your part this is America & freedom of speech and freedom of who you are and your body parts!! i say move on.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): nothing you can say to him that will make him feel ok. You will break his heart, but you gotta do it, i have had this situation happen to me also. you need to tell him that you want to be just friends with him, then its up to him
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