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writes:im 17 years old , my bf is 19 years olf, weve been together for nearly 3 years and we would love to have a baby, recently wevehad unprotected sex, and i cant recall the date of my last period as their so irregular. Im so worried if i am pregnant though as i feel as though my parents would reject me and i dont want my baby to be brought up without a loving set of grandparents that think im to young what should i do?
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reader, pmice  +, writes (22 March 2009):
You are 17 years old and your boyfriend is 19 and you think you are ready for a child?? Forgive me for being blunt but are you out of your mind? You will miss out on ALOT of things if you were to have a baby right now, and it is not easy. I had my daughter at 22 and I had to work multiple jobs to support her and my wife while she went to school. Get the idea of the cutesy fun baby stuff out of your head and think about changing the most horrible smelling diapers morning, noon and night, the screaming day and night, NOT HAVING A SECOND TO YOURSELF, you have to constantly be watching the baby, entertaining, teaching, cleaning up after, and the list goes on...it may seem fun at first and it is overall a wonderful thing WHEN YOU ARE AN ADULT WITH A GOOD JOB AND PLACE TO LIVE AND SOLID RELATIONSHIP...but at your age, trust me, this would be a disaster. You need to finish your education, explore the possibilities of life before being tied down permanently with not many options because once you have a baby, there's no time for anything. Please take this advice cause it is really in your best interest.
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reader, hip_hoppin_bitch +, writes (22 March 2009):
Hun, i really think ur 2 young 2 have a baby, i went thru dis stage at 14 when i wus wanting 2 have a baby, but didn't really have the sources 2 get pregnant. I think that u and your bf should really get 2gether and discuss the pros and cons of this situation. Are you mentally and physically, emotionally ready? Are u ready 2 stay up at night, trying 2 get your baby back 2 sleep if he or she would wake up crying in the middle of the night? Are u responsible enough 2 take care of a baby? Are u prepared 2 go thru all of the changes during the nine month wait, the morning sickness, mood swings, ect? Do u have the money and right surroundings 2 have a baby in? Ask yourself all of these questions, go up 2 your parents, and just ask them, if they would support u if u got pregnant, while u were still a teen. Now, if all of this does not discourage u 2 have a baby, then here's what i suggest. Just drop the pregnancy control pills and condoms completely, look at when you are supposed 2 have your period, and then chart when you will be ovulating, i think that sticks around 2-4 days, i suggest that you should have sex with your bf everyday during this time, and then wait 4 your period, if it doesn't come 4 at least a week after your period was due, go buy a pregnancy test, and c if its positive or not, if it turns up positive, schedule a doctor's appointment, and all i can say after that is good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): ummmm...i think you're too young to have a baby and i don't even know you.so you can only begin to imagine how your parents would feel if that was the case.what surprises me is...if you're so sure you want to have a baby with your boyfriend,how can this fear of your parents' reaction be the only thing getting in the way of that decision?honey,a baby is a huge responsibility,one that changes your entire life forever.are you ready to shift all your prioroties one rang down,yourself included,and make room for this baby at the top?you're thinking about bringing another person to this world,when you're still so young yourself!i'm 18 and just at the thought of having a baby at such a young age,i freak out!i'm not really sure you're ready for this kind of commitment and just the fact that you're having second thoughts tells me that there's more you're scared of than just the reaction of your parents,which makes perfect sense.is it maybe something that your boyfriend wants more than you and you're just going along?because in that case you should have a long discussion with him on the matter.anyways,my advice to you is:when you're 100% sure that you want a baby,if you really want a baby,you should have one-not at this age,you're not mature enough for a baby trust me-but until then,i wouldn't even consider having a baby if i were you.i hope i helped!
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 First off, you ARE too young. Sorry, but you just are. In a society that's in such an economic turmoil, the last thing you need is a baby whilst in your teens. Give it some time!
You parents will (probably) not reject you or the baby, as you are family, granted you're VERY young to be having a child, I just don't see how a loving mother could have anything but support for her daughter when she needs it the most. If you're CONCERNED about pregnancy then you're not ready. Keep with the protection, You really don't need a baby right now.
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