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writes:Ok. basically i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time about 5 days ago. We didn't use a condom and now i feel stupid and all my friends have lectured me, at the time he said he would pull out and everything seemed fine. I really liked him, trusted him etc, and we were doing stuff like we have been for ages and i just really wanted to, i was the one who said and he asked me about a million times if i was sure and he was lovely to me etc and he kept saying am I 100% sure etc before he did and he genually seemed worried and like proper asking me if i was ok throughout etc. It was really sweet etc.He asked me to get the morning after pill just to be sure, i didn't think anything would happen if he pulled out, but anyway i got the morning after, and i still haven't had my period. So i'm started to get really scared.Also, I want to ask him if he's been tested before.We once spoke about this, like chlamydia etc and we were saying how we'd never sleep with anyone who we we sure, but thinking about it, they're no symptoms so he wouldn't even know!Luckily I have the 3 most caring friends.They want to take me to get tested for everything on sunday, and i want to, to see if i have anything.But, should i tell my boyfriend I'm going? or ask him if he has ever been tested?or should i go, and then if i do then tell him?i don't want him to think i don't trust him etc, but my emotions are all over the place at the minute. i feel angry with myself for not waiting until we had protection and i'm upset about if i'm pregnant and i'm shit scared!Please help i just desperately need some advice:(xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (18 April 2010):
 Pulling out is not a reliable form as contraception and some sperm can sneak out in the pre-cum. The morning after pill is only about 63% effective and that's if you take it really soon after.
You need to do four things:
1. Try not to stress as this can delay your period
2. Get a pregnancy test or two
3. Get a chlamydia test your your surgery
4. Buy some condoms and keep them in your bag.
Let us know the results =]
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 You don't have to tell him unless you are tested positive.
Morning after pill works only if taken within 72 hours. .
Have safe sex always.
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (18 April 2010):
Go get yourself tested, just politely tell him that your doing this and he has the option to go get himself tested too.
As for the morning after pill, sometimes it will throw off your period depending on when you take it. When you go get tested for std's and pregnancy, ask them to put you on birth control, and make sure to take it everyday or ask for implanon, I know they have other forms of bc in Europe. Just make sure to use condoms next time, I am not going to judge you because I screwed up and got pregnant and terminated it, and I have been on the pill ever since and take it every day.
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reader, lucy x +, writes (18 April 2010):
 hi,
i have been in the same situation first of all go and see your doctor to have a pregnancy test or do a home one 2 weeks after having sex
and yes its a good idea to get tested but dont hide it from your boyfriend, just say to him can you come to the doctors with me while i get tested to see if im pregnant then slightly hint out to your doctor about being tested for sti's and then he/she will offer you both a test and just say why not that way your not hiding any or you havnt got to ask him hope that helps love lucy xxx
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (17 April 2010):
 look you probaly just late a bit it doesn't matter your pregnant it happens when you are that young. Truly is stupid that you didn't use condom because guys let a bit sperm out during sex before they come. And about the sickness go see a doctor and he'll tell you what to do don't be afraid to go see the doctor. He can help you with things and tell you what's happening. It's worth it to go see the doctor because of the risk you can get if you don't. Please be much more careful next time
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