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writes:Hi, I'm a bit worried here. Me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other for almost a year now and we have un-protected sex regualary... but my periods still come on time and each time I don't seem to get pregnant (when I don't take the morning after pill)Do you think I have an STI? I'm really worried do you think I should get tested??help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Ok, DIOVAN, She asked for advice, not for someone to tell her how stupid "she" is. Maybe she is making stupid, immature choices but really, must you name call? And if you read clearly she's not taking the morning after pill so she's not "terrified" of trying to get pregnant, sounds like she's actually trying to and is worried about why it hasn't happened! Now, back to giving the advice. I do think it is unfair if your boyfriend does not know you are trying to have a baby, but he should know consequences come with unprotected sex and especially if you two are doing it on a regular basis unless eh is saying "hey, don't forget to take the morning after pill" then that would indicate he might not want a child. If you are afraid that you have a STI, just simply go to the Dr. dear and get yourself checked out.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 DiovanLestat gave you some great advice. I have to ask one more thing...is your boyfriend on the same page as you about trying to have a child? If not, it's not fair of you to trick him into becoming a father so early.
The morning-after pill is not a good means of REGULAR contraception, by the way. It's called "emergency contraception" for a reason...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I'm a bit worried as well. Do you want to have a baby, is your relationship strong enough to handle that, have you enough finances to take care of a baby. If your taking the morning after pill, then it sounds like you don't want to get pregnant at this time...
What you are doing young lady is very, very stupid. You don't seem to want to get pregnant, you sound frightened to get an STI but you still have unprotected sex and take a chance. The morning after pill is not a good form of contraception. It actually is very concentrated form of the contraceptive pill, and it is harmful to your body if you use it too much. Why are you being such an idiot, why not go to the doctor and get yourself fixed up with some proper contraception, rather than this hit and mix thing.
No there is nothing wrong with you. It can take up to a year for a woman to get pregnant if she is having unprotected sex. Probably you have unprotected sex, at the least fertile point in your cycle. You don't sound 18, your too immature and stupid to be that old. Don't you know anything, your old enough to have sex, but you know nothing about your menstrual cycle, pregnancy or how to prevent STI.
I suggest you book an appointment with the clinic, and get somebody to explain all about your cycle, fertility and the options for birth control. Take a smear test while you are there, you probably haven't had one of those yet, and you could be at risk from cervical cancer when you get older. Also get them to show you how to do a breast check, so you know what to look for, and can avoid breast cancer, that can happen to women. Your old enough to have sex, your old enough to look after your body and your health, because mummy's not gonna do these things for you anymore.
Stop having sex without proper contraception, or before you know it, you'll be mummy or you'll be on an operating table facing an abortion one day. Don't play stupid games with your health, it's not worth it. If your old enough to have sex, your old enough to be more sensible about your body and your sexual well being....
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support.
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