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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, This isn't the first time I mention about my obsessive crush on my teacher. Many of you have given me valuable advice, but I still feel powerless to stop myself from sinking into depression. It has been two years since my infatuation towards my teacher triggered. Like many other girls who fancy their teachers, I was impressed by his wit and demeanour. He has the attractive qualities which I can never find in any guys of my age. The crush has led to enormous changes in my routine. I've joined every extra-cirricular programme he is in charge with; I spent hours and hours preparing for his class, weeks and weeks writing his essay, which has more or less affected my performance in the other modules; I sink into depression when I fail to impress him; I stop socialising with friends who has teased me about my feeling for him; I only talk to friends who offer me consolidation; I indugle in literature on unrequired love... I seem to have no motivation to do anything which isn't related to him. I am also very concerned that my crush has recently led to a rather dispicable stalking behaviour. I looked up his friend list on facebook and joined his friend's regional network to get his photographs. I even had to close facebook to resist the urge of stalking him. Unlike many girls who is crushing on their teachers, I am in my early twenties. The fact that I am incompetent to cope with my crush has been killing my self-esteem. My teacher crush has changed my life, whereas many others consider it as a trivial matter. I can foresee that I will feel hopeless after I graduate. It is only a few months away from the end of my university years. I will never see him again after I graduate. I don't know what to do.
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reader, 14sj14 +, writes (15 March 2009):
Aww :( Im going through what your going through at the moment. im 16 in year 11 and im in love with my female PE teacher, i have done for 2years, but the past 6months my feelings have grown stronger and she is all i think about, it's driving me insane. Plus she is the same sex as me, which i feel completely disguisted by! I think you should tlel him your feelings when you leave? That's what im going to do when i leave sixthform. and im going to ask if ican still keep in touch so im not as hurt. Don't worry about the stalking, i stalk the one i likea lot. i always try to be in the same place as her, at the same time. Im constantly going on to her facebook picture, i feel like my obsession for her has gone over the top.
Try not to worry, yes it's hard. It's part of life. Focus on your work, and tell him your feelings at the end.
i don;t know wether this has been any help, but i hope it has
good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Yeah find out if he's single, if so let him know how you feel in some way before you leave uni. Got nothing to lose. However if he isn't single I'd leave it.Good Luck ! -x
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reader, Anonny +, writes (17 February 2009):
Hey - like you say it is normal (and quite harmless) to have a crush on your teacher! - Obviously, you have got it bad seeing you are looking him up on Facebook!
But considering you are in your 20s and are leaving university soon, why don't you just slip him a note with your number on, saying how you feel before you leave for good - you never know - he may feel the same!! Unless he is married of course then I would just stay well clear!
Good luck!
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