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writes:I have been married for six years and have a son with my wife but I am unhappy. i have recently met a young women and I have got feelings for her that I have never felt before. I dont know what to do. do I leave my wife and son and be happy or do I stay with my son and be unhappy ? I need help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Marte  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I think you owe it to your wife to be honest and up front with her. Tell her that you don't have the same feelings for her and set her free! She will undoubtedly be getting some vibes from you already, so just grow some balls and be totally honest with her and also with yourself. I would not pursue another relationship yet, because I really believe you need to sort yourself out first and foremost. If you do fall into another relationship you will not be able to figure out what it is you really want in your life, and will only be repeating the same mistakes you made with your wife. As for your son, well I think he will eventually understand, as long as you are honest and forthright with him, he will only love and respect you more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): I have to tell you that the grass on the other side of the fence is seldom greener. If you've recently met this other woman your feelings for her are bound to be on a high. It could be a whole different ball game if it came to living with her, once you discovered all those little irritating things about her that are so far undiscovered.
You're bound to feel less happy with your marriage if there's a third person involved, because you won't be putting everything into the marriage that you should be.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Everyone is entitled to happiness but you dont say why you are unhappy. Have you tried to resolve the issues and make your marriage work so that you can stay with your wife and son? I personally would suggest you try it alone if you cannot save your marriage. See how you feel as you may be jumping into a relationship as you see it is the only way out. This would cause a lot of pain for your family, your wife may use it against you and be resentful of you seeing your son and not allow this woman into his life. Work out what you really really need right now. A lot of hassle, pain and heartbreak or maybe a little space to see if you possibly miss your wife or this other lady, once you know you can choose the right path x
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