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writes:Hello, I am a 20 year old male, and I moved to a new neighborhood about three years ago. Over the last three years we have become friendly with everyone on the block and my little brother enjoys playing with the neighborhood children. One of my neighbor's daughters is 16 years old, and over the years she has become close to the family and comes over often. However over the last year she has been making advances on me every single time. It started out small with brushing against me on purpose and wearing clothes that showed off her body every time she came over. Though after a few weeks she got bolder. One time when I stayed in my room when she was over, she knocked and kept asking to come in, and when I didn't she made a huffing sound and walked away. I thought she had left, until she slid something under my door and it was a pair of her panties. I came out and gave them to her and asked why she did it, and she said it got me out of the room didn't it? Then after she left, I come back in and her panties were sitting on my chair with a heart on a note next to them. A few weeks later, I was at her parent's house having a barbecue. I was changing in the bathroom to go swim in their swimming pool, when she unlocked the door and came in. She said she had to change and when I tried to go past her, she stood in front of the door and took her clothes off, pressing herself against me before I could leave and change elsewhere. I tried to talk to her parent's about the issue in private, and they didn't have any issues with it. They told me that they supported her 100%.What should I do? I don't want to spurn her and alienate my neighbors I am close with, and have things turned in a bad light. But I also don't want to be deemed a pedophile since she is under 18 and illegal. Reply to this Question
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reader, koga88 +, writes (9 August 2009):
koga88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice and the helpful words. I will try talking to her about this today and seeing if she will stop it. Because it has become a problem and bothers me, because I don't know what she is going to do next. Either that or try to confront her family again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): the only way to stop it is to stop it... be loud and parent like.... like "get your clothes on NOW"... and don't put your self in that situation... you know shes a little off so stay out... I think she is a stalker.. and with those people any communication is bad.. all bad!... i mean what is she going to do and her parents for that matter if it went further and they didn't get what they wanted? GEEZ I think they are all nuts... if i were you I would order in!
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reader, Chaddles  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Wow, nice to know you show respect for her!
Just try and avoid her. If that fails, tell her you have a partner and get a female friend to help you out.
If that still doesn't push her away, GO FOR IT! Joking, just don't make as much contact with her.
Thank god you didn't write like:
"I H4Z A HAWT SEXTIIN GURL HU W4NTZ TO S3X W1T M3H! SH0ULD 1'Z G0E5 4 IT?!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): If you like her and find her attractive regale her. If you really don't and I think you do not fancy her then keep telling her that you don't want to play as you are not into her. She won't be happy but she'll know that she can't keep wearing you down to conquer you.
You could always get a GF and introduce her to your brother's friend.
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reader, aprilfools +, writes (9 August 2009):
 If you want a relationship with her, do it in a respectful manner (until she's 18 lol).
Trust me, I know!
I know plenty of girls that have dated older guys and if it ends badly then she's probably gunna try to put you in jail...
Choose wisely...
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reader, eeeazyl +, writes (9 August 2009):
hi, i went threw the same thing. im a female and the father of this guys son was ok with it as long as he got some. it went on for 2 yrs. and me and his son had very strong feelings for each other. and yes the son was under age at the time. until the father and the son became obssed with me, they both were stalking me together, smashing into my car, i had to move were no one knew were i was. the father would not even let the son, when he was was of age , be with me. and even though me and the son got along great and it could have worked out for us, it just couldnt happen. dont let it get to you, its not worth the problems that you will have. let it be for now. when she is old enough and the feelings are still there than go with it. i wish you the best, but for me it wasnt that way. but i also have that kinda luck. let me know how things turn out. but be strong for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Well its hard to beat that previous answer, so on another view if your worried about the law wait until she's 17 unless ur in an independant state 17 is legal for a woman and 18 for a man so unless ur not interested period that's something to think about, other then that go with what HereToHelpx said
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Stop flirting/coming onto you*
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Her parents didn't have any issue with it? What good parents they are! *rolls eyes*. I don't think they are handling the situation very well. They may have got the impression that you wanted to go out with her, depending on what you said exactly, so maybe you could talk to them again, or this girl herself, and explain that you don't feel the same and her coming onto you is making you feel uncomfortable.
Talking to her would be the best option, make it very clear that you see her as a friend, she might be upset but hopefully it will clear things up and she'll start flirting/coming onto you. If not, then as much as you may not want to, make yourself unavailable when they come over or when you're invited to any events they plan. Might be rude but she might get the picture then.
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