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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi all, I got married six months ago and my husband and I were doing very well in the beginning ...but lately we have been arguing about many things . Currently we are living with my parents because he lost his job and had missed court dates in his country . So I suggested since we couldn't afford our rent that the only solution was that we should move back to my country...anyway we don't pay rent Iam unemployed and so is he because we have to wait for his work permit... I feel bad for my parents to have to witness our horrific fights.. A week ago we got into an argument and some nasty hurtful words were engaged.. He claims I disrespected his father by saying mean things about him... Whenever his family is mentioned he flips out ... His dad bought tickets to come out here to visit and also bought us tickets to Disneyland and our own hotel... Which I appreciate... Anyway during our argument he picked up the phone and called his father telling him that I am a bad wife and that I talk bad about him and said nasty things about his father (all lies) he told his dad so many bad things about me.. Now he expects me to still go to Disneyland with them... I feel so uncomfortable after him calling and I don't want to go... I told him if he wants me to go he should call his father and let him know what he said were lies so that our relationship might be able to get back to the way it was. He refuses to say that. I told him I don't feel comfortable with him going alone to the resort and staying away for three days alone even if he's with his dad and brothers... He says he's choosing them over me .it hits me that a man should choose his wife no matter what
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (1 February 2014):
 A man phoning his father or mother during a fight with his wife to complain about her and take "witnesses" on his side ? HOW CHILDISH is that sort of guy ? "Mummy ! The bad girl is bad mouthing me. And 'know what, she's bad mouthing you too ! Can you punish that bad girl for both of us ?"I fear your relationship lays on a very, very bad ground. And I would not be surprised if all this monument collapsed soon. The sooner, the better in term of... well, you know what I mean.And if it has to be, perhaps would it be best for you to take that decision in his country than in yours (I assume you are American?) as in the USA everything might be more troublesome than where you're living in now.
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