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writes:hey, um how do i get over this feeling. I'm a bit uncomfortable with my body. I don't like talking about breasts and stuff. I mean i'm mature about it and stuff, but when other people talk about it around me, i get embarrassed. Now i've always had training bras. got when i was 13. well now i'm 14, and today my mom bought me a real bra. I tried it on and it felt so weird. To me, it feels awkward to wear a actual bra. Whenever we're at the store, and my mom wants to look for a bra for me, i beg her to not look, and just get me one when she's at the store by herself. I know i'm acting like a little baby, but i just end up feeling so embarrassed and awkward. Any advice?
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reader, MutantKitten  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Maybe you just feel uncomfortable around your mum? is it possible to go shopping with girls your age? you might feel better with a bunch of girls who have similar problems. I hung out with a whole bunch of saucy funny girls, and we went to a bra place and tried on all sorts of hilarious bras in front of each other, and just cackled about it.
The secret to being comfortable around body stuff is to laugh and be confident. There's nothing to be ashamed about your breasts! They will become your best friends in the next few years.
Another idea would be to go to a little specialty bra shop. They'll measure you perfectly and find a beautiful bra that's comfortable. These women are the keepers of secret bra knowledge. You can ask them ANYTHING about boobs/bras. It's totally different than a department store or the chain bra store in your mall. And trust me, they won't think you're weird or funny or dumb. You don't have anything they haven't seen before ;)
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (18 January 2009):
 I was so excited to get a bra when I was younger. Hmm...I wanted to grow up so badly, so maybe it is that you don't want to grow up (just like someone else said).Some people are just more shy about things like that. I don't think there's anything wrong with you...have you ever talked to your mom about the changes your body is going through? My mom and I never talked about that stuff- I learned about it from friends, and I was never really expressive of that kind of stuff with my mom. As you get older, you become more comfy with that stuff. I would just try to talk to your mom privately and maybe she can help you understand why you're embarrassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): Maybe growing up scares you. You don't want to admit yet that you have breasts, or a reason to wear a bra.
I know just how you feel, believe me. I would have died rather than the go and buy even a training bra.
What you need is time, girl. I promise you'll stop feeling awkward is a few years, and you'll just laugh about it.
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