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writes: Ok this is a kinda long story so ima try to make it short.. Ok so I met this guy last year(he is now 22 and I am 18) and he asked for my number and he would call me almost everyday, but we lost touch until his cousin contacted my friend and they somehow fixed me and this guy up. We have now been talking for about 2 months. Things were great, he always wanted to see me, we would text and talk on the phone. But lately we haven't been talking all that much and its been two weeks that we've seen each other. I understand he's a busy guy since we works, goes to the gym and has a social life. I myself have a job and attend college, and even though I'm usually always busy I'm willing to make time to see him, so why won't he? Lately I've felt him distant, like if he's TOO busy to at least give me a 5 minute call or to text me just to see how I'm doing. I think that after a year we obviously care for each other, if we didn't we wouldn't of talked again. And I know he likes me because he's told me.I'm just wondering if I should tell him how I feel? If he's still interested in me? Am I over reacting? Or should I just let things be?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Have you been going out regularly during the past two months that you have been talking to him?
Maybe he has cooled off a little but i think it would have been manners for him to at least let you know how he was feeling.
I think if he has not been in touch for two weeks i would take that as 'actions speak lounder than words' so to speak but i think that is a very cowardly way to end a relationship on his part and he should have been honest with you if things have not been working out.
Maybe he is just gradually drifting away from you and does not want to make a big thing of it as he may drift right back eventually if you will allow him to.
Why not just send him a text and say that you realize things seem to be going adrift with your relationship but if he wants to talk you would be more than willing. At least you may get a response from that text and get some idea to exactly what he is thinking.
If you don't hear back though i am sure you will one way or another, give him some time on his own i know it will be difficult because i don't doubt you have some feelings for him now but it is early days in your relationship and better to know now than months down the line when it would be much harder to bear!
If you give him time on his own he will have the chance to realize that he may actually miss you and if he doesn't get in touch well then you will know that at least you did the decent thing and i would try though it will be hard to move on.
Be strong and good luck x
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