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writes:This guy I have been dating for 3 months is starting to get on my nerves and I would like to understand why that is, as before that we got to know each other as platonic friends (about 4 months before he made a move). Nothing would ever have happened if he had never initiated the move (i have never sent him any flirty signals).In our friends stage, I never was really attracted to him or thought of him as a potential boyfriend. But once he kissed me, I decided to give him a shot and see where this goes (because he is a good person with a lot of qualities). In the beginning, I was enjoying this new aspect of our relationship and was even starting to feel a lot of chemistry (we only had made out so far and I was really into it).Then I went on family holidays for only 2 weeks. I was excited to see him once I was back - but when we met, I suddenly felt very different about him. I guess I realize that it's not going to work out between us and he is really starting to get on my nerves: the way he talks, the same topic of conversations he keeps bringing up like a broken record, his table manners (such as holding his fork as if it's a shovel). Regardless of that, he also has a lot of qualities but I guess I'm realizing we are just not compatible on the long run and the relationship is just not fun for me anymore. He is also physically starting to repulse me. I'm seeing him this week and just the thought that we actually made out and he wants to kiss me makes me sick (i feel really bad about writing this because i'm not a hateful person and like to get along with everyone but i can't help feeling this way)! I'm definitely putting a stop to our dating-relationship but what I'd like to understand is why he suddenly annoys me after not seeing him for only 2 weeks? I want to understand because i feel like i flipped a switch out of nowhere.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 April 2013):
 Three months is usually the first "make or break" time. the honeymoon perfect period is starting to wan and the true colors of the people in the relationship come out....
You are realizing it's not going to work and you are looking for reasons to end it, when the only reason you need is "it's not working for me" but he may ask "why not"
and you will feel better with a laundry list of things that are "wrong"
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 April 2013):
 I think you are realizing that he isn't BF material (for you at least) and now you are nit-picking him finding reasons WHY he isn't.
Why is happened after the 2 week vacation? Maybe because you don't really know him that well and you thought he would be a certain way, come to realize he is not how you "want" him to be or thought he would be.
It's hard to say exactly WHY.
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