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*earingOctopus
writes:I've never had a boyfriend before, nor has anyone ever asked me out or vice-versa. I don't really know how to deal with relationships at all.I'm caught in a terrible predicament at the moment. It started on Saturday when me and a couple of my friends went camping. One of them, just call him David, has a good friendship with my current crush, call him Liam. Anyway, during to course of the night David was occasionally texting Liam, who at that time was fairly intoxicated. He eventually texted David, telling him that he liked me. Needless to say I was ecstatic.This is where it gets confusing.You see, my and my other friend, let's call him Todd, have this sort of 'More than friends' thing going on. We've never actually done anything, we only really spoon or sleep on eachother at sleepovers and such. This particular night, we did go a bit further, not much, I don't really feel as though I should go into detail.Anyway, the next day I was talking to Liam online, I told him how I felt about him, and he assured me that the text he sent wasn't just a stupid 'drunk text'.But on Monday at school, he just completely ignored me. I was hurt and confused, he never went on Facebook that night, or texted me or anything. I figured it was some elaborate joke that backfired or something.As it turned out, some pretty bad stuff happened to him on that Saturday night, and he was extremely fatigued and stressed by the whole situation. For some reason he told my best-friend about all of this, but not me. She assured me that it's because he doesn't want to ruin anything with me at the moment. Meanwhile, Todd, my other friend, randomly tells me that he thinks he might be depressed. It's so strange, because he seems like such a happy person. I'm not really sure what to do here. Both guys have serious problems going on right now. I really really like Liam, but he seems to be only talking to my best-friend which hurts, I don't know how long I'll be stuck like this until something happens, there might not even be anything at all happen. I just don't know.And Todd, I've liked him before, but honestly I just like Liam so much more. I'm worried that if he does ask me out and I say no, this will just fuel his depression, I'm not sure if I do have feelings for him though, half of me says go for it, the other half says no. If I do say yes to him, I stress that when we break-up, it could damage our friend-ship badly.I just don't know what to do, do I wait for Liam, Date Todd or do nothing?
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