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26-29,
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writes:Two guys really like me and I like them back. They are both great guys and I don't know which to choose. Both of them get me presents for which ever occasion it is. So I don't know which one to choose because they both asked me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 July 2014):
 That's not much to go on. You really should be honest with both of them while you are deciding. Joe, I can't be committed to you yet. There is another guy asking and I want to decide on my own schedule. I would be happy to hang out and get to know you better, that will help me make my decision. Something like that.
Meanwhile you need to positively work on making the decision. Don't just make a list and give each item a score. Use your heart as well. Some things that make a person fun to date are:
They are good conversationalists. They listen well and bring interesting viewpoints.
They have hobbies and interests that you can share. If you aren't interested in hunting or football you might want to avoid guys who are most interested in that.
They have sufficient money. Not to be mercenary, but it is no fun to have to watch every penny, or on the other hand not be able to keep up with his spending.
Good habits / hygiene. I't kills the mood if he smells funny, or slurps his soup.
Some things that make a person a good long term partner:
Stable personality that complements yours.
Safe, not into drugs or dangerous activities.
Smart about money. Doesn't throw it around just to impress. Doesn't abuse credit.
Has a job with a future.
You feel comfortable with him.
We could list all day but your own list is more important. Don't be in too big of a rush to decide. A few weeks is ok. Spending time with each will actually help. Coffee or ice cream dates, walks or picnics. Casual stuff like that.
Or you could just pick the one with the biggest BMW (just kidding, I cant resist an old joke)
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