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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Any help is appreciated.So my girlfriend and I broke up and we have always been on and off but recently we've been really great. She says we act like friends and its true shes my bestfriend, but I feel like she wants to just jump into another relationship and it hurts, she keeps pushing me to move on and go out and date, but that isnt who I am but Im trying to make her and my mother happy. My mom wants me to date a man, and I would like to as well but I dont know whether Im scared because Im not ready or because Im afraid to have sex, Im having panic attacks daily because I dont know how to make everyone happy. And I know I should be working on making me happy but I need everyone off my back first and it would be nice to date, but I just want to get my life on track and I dont see someone dating a twenty year old who is no where near finishing high school and is looking for a job.I just feel so depressed everything is pilling up and Im falling under it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): You're too easily manipulated by other people. Maybe you are co-dependent. that means that you feel the need to sacrifice your own needs to make other people happy. this is bad because no one is that "good" that they can keep this up long term without feeling a lot of negative effects like what you're feeling. in the end you feel resentful and drained.
you need to take a stand and do what you need, and just not care about what others want you to do. You don't have to fight with your mother or anyone else about it, just simply don't do what they say, you don't owe anyone any explanation. You need to live your life for yourself, not fit into other's picture of what they want you to be.
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