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writes: My ex and i were with each other for almost 4 years and a year of no contact after the break up..no one cheated..i think we did really love each other..it was petty stuff that i think we can get over from just learning from mistakes etc..i know what i would do differently and told him this. I told him i would rather be with him than some other guy. We went a year with no contact and i was strong but i decided to contact him because i knew i still loved him. We have been talking for months every week or two weeks and from knowing him i know he isn't the type where he would jump back quickly into things. He is in his 30's and i am in my mid twenties.I did ask him very direct questions and made direct comments of how maybe he is just trying to be this "nice guy" and doesn't want to say that he just doesn't want me. And he said that isn't exactly right b/c if it was about me then he would be seeing someone already or looking.We have been having decent conversations although its mostly me calling at this point and in terms of us seeing each other he said let him get his head together. So i figured I should give him the benefit of the doubt and maybe eventually he will come around. I am trying to date in the meantime.I was organizing some stuff and i came across a picture of me and him that he never saw. It is a picture of us on a boat that my friend took..the sun is in our eyes so we both look kinda funny but cute...there are alot more unfortunately but this one i thought was more casual and fun.I decided to text him the picture since it seemed like it could bring a laugh or smile once he saw the explanation in the text. We did speak earlier in the day around 7pm and he knew i was home going through some stuff because i wasn't feeling well and didn't have much else to do because of it. He was a little sick and also was picking up family earlier in the day. I put in the message i don't think u ever saw this before, just thought maybe u might like to see..kinda funny picture etc..I sent it after 10 or so when i figured his family was settled in..he didn't respond which was fine---i actually was going to be suprised if he did respond lol. I just thought of it as something nice to put out there--nothing we need to talk about it. Just a nice gesture and if he hates it he can delete it. I know i already asked this but now its been almost a week. I decided to give him a call this afternoon. When he didn't answer i texted him saying i am still not feeling well to kinda show when i sent the picture it was a casual thing, we don't need to discuss it now still hasn't gotten back to me. Yes, today is a holiday and maybe he is busy, working, out etc. I guess i am just nervous that i ruined this with a picture because he's been taking my calls until now it seems.Was it a very bad idea to send the pic? I was just trying to do something nice. I hope it didn't scare him off or ruin things..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): How many times ar eyou going to post this question? I've seen it twice before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): hi im hannah. i really dont think it was a bad idea to send tht pic. i think it just shows tht u wanted to remind him of the fun u guys had/have so dont fell bad if he doesnt tx or call back. hes probably just missing all the good times u to had/have. so u did a good job of "reminding" him
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