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writes:I have been trying to get pregnant, I don't know if I am and i just got off of my monthly over a week now. My stomache is getting a little bigger I have been eating a little more then I used to. I just started bleeding again what can that mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Having a child is not like having a puppy. It's a 24/7 commitment. It's WAY more work then most people who HAVE kids will EVER let you on.
I have a friend who's daughter decide to get pregnant at 18. She wanted someone who loved her unconditionally. Someone who was ALL hers. Someone she could start a little family with.
Well, guess what happened? Her BF bailed when he found out ( took her 3 years to get child support - and the dud had 3 other kids with 3 other girls already). Her MOM now raises the child, not her. She realized when the baby was a few weeks old that she really wasn't ready for a child and the commitment of a child. That sucks ! for the child. He is so lucky he's got an awesome grandmother and grandfather.
My best advice is DON'T have a child yet. There is plenty of time. Get a cat or a dog and see what it is like to be a "parent" Then multiply the work you have to put into it by 500 and you will have a vague idea of the work that a child requires.
Like Mommyof1 pointed out.. HOW are you going to support this child? Hmm? You want others to pay for all that you will need to raise it? Feed it? Dress it? Diaper it?
Live your life. Babies can come later.
And go see an OB/GYN. Haven't you heard about prenatal care?
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Sweetheart, I am not "dissing" on young moms. But in no way should she be getting pregnant at her age. If it was an accident, that is one thing. But she is actively trying to conceive. That's a whole nother ball game. She can't even form a complete sentence, yet she wants a child. Children shouldn't raise children. This is absolutely ludicrous. She doesn't have a full time job with medical benefits to cover her pregnancy, should it happen. What will she do should she gets pregnant? Go get on government help and use tax payers dollars to raise the child she so desperately had to have at 16-17? Yeah. Great idea. She can't provide for the child. But my taxes will. That's skewed.If you can not provide for the child, you shouldn't have it. If you still live at home with mom and dad, you shouldn't actively try for a baby. If your still in school, you shouldn't be trying to have a baby. If your under 18, you shouldn't be trying to have a baby.This thread is insane to me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): dont diss on young moms.. i wouldnt be here if it wasnt for teenage pregnancies.. but yeah youre not pregnant if youre bleedningg.. youre on yer period.
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (30 January 2009):
For one, you wouldn't be showing ANY signs this early. If you just had your period, you wouldn't be having any signs.
Secondly, why the hell are you trying to get pregnant?! Your 16-17 years old! Are you kidding me?! Your a child! Why are you TRYING to have a child? You can't even care for yourself, but your willing to bring a human being into this world, that you won't be able to care for? OMG.
Have you told your parents your actively trying to get pregnant? Didn't think so. If you can't openly tell your family your trying to have a baby, then you probably shouldn't be doing it. Get real and wake up before its to late. My god.
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