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writes: My ex and i were together for a few years and he broke up due to petty things like arguments etc but we did love each other alot. We had pretty much a year of no contact until i left a voicemail. He knows my intentions of getting back together. We have been talking for months. We had a few serious talks with him saying he isn't ready to be in a relationship again and needs time to get his head together and get other things straigtened out as well. I did ask direct questions such as maybe you are trying to be "nice" and its me you don't want and you dont want to say it. And he said that is not true b/c if it was he would be seeing someone already or looking. I said do you think you could have feelings for me again and want to be with me and he said i think so and i never said i don't have feelings for you. He knows i would rather be with him than some other guy.I asked if he would want to see me randomly because i never expected for us to see each other once and then we are back together; its not realistic and its better to take things slow. And he said ok and i asked if he was against it and he said no he wasn't but let him get his head together. This was a month ago and we have exchanged a few calls back and forth since then every few days or week. Some nights when i call he doesn't pick up and it makes me worried he is seeing someone but hopefully that is not the case because he seems genuine.(but who knows b/c its not like we are together)I feel like if I go no contact again--we are going to lose whatever closeness we developed. A friend of mine said she would call every week or almost 2 weeks just to keep somewhat of that closeness going b/c otherwise it will set things back. I agree with her b/c of knowing his personality and how he is. What do i do though to keep things going---sometimes call after a few days, maybe another time wait 2 weeks? don't always pick up if he calls me and let him wonder a little? keep the conversations light until maybe june and ask if we are going to see each other before the summer ends?What should i do next? ( besides move on because i still truly care about him.) I will continue to try the dating websites I am on to keep busy.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 You can keep on calling every 2weeks but it won't have the desired effects on him because his heart is cold and dead.
All your efforts will only be in vain. You will be pushing him further away from you .
reference;-
http://www.wikihow.com/Win-an-Ex-Back
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): Keep trying and this time once you get him back.get married.
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