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writes:HI allI feel that I need some serous advice.Yes I am the same Myau, kicking everyone else up the behind. I have answered goodness knows how many posts under my 3 names: notsogreat, Ingwe and Myau.But I do this in truth because I am suffering from depression. I thought if I helped people Id feel better.It has helped in a way, but my problems are deep.I am currently unemployed and have no friends at all. Both are my fault, as I quit my last job as I hate working. Always have, I dont know why. And I estranged my friends. Long story thereI also havent spent any time with my daughter in years, her family dont like me and make it very difficult for me to visit her. I also get the feeling that she isnt very interested in being with me and is better off without me.All I do now days is lie in bed. I dont go anywhere or do anything. I have had several rather pointless relationships in the last few years that went nowhere.My last relationship was a long distance one that was one lie after another.I serously cant remember the last time I had sex, it was atleast 4 years ago I think.My problem is that I have inherited my familys inner strength, so I am always brimming with confidence, it however is keeping me from hitting rock bottom, so Im stuck in this sad life.In truth, I am lonely. rather poor and have no idea what I want from life. I feel like I have already died and am just waiting for my body to make it official.Nothing holds any excitment for me anymore and I am just not motivated to improve myself. I have never traveled and have never completed any studies since High school.Yes I have tried therapy but it doesnt work.I strongly feel that the solution is to find the starting place so I cant begin rebuilding my life, but where is it and what is it.Im sorry to moan on like this but its all the truth and I would be grateful for some advice to break this depression so I can get my life back on track
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): A very good agony aunt who used to answer questions on here told me this,"Get off DearCupid completely" and start living.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 ...Hi there, Well I'll say one thing for sure, if you are
surviving without working, then you are doing very well indeed. First of all, your story could belong to many people, especially now. You should think about becoming an
entrepreneur, and start a business of your own. I don't think you dislike work, I think you dislike the structure and working for someone else. Write out some things that you would like to do, study them, choose two, study them and choose one. Write out a business plan, mission statement, and develop your model. As for your daughter, if you feel she does not want to be with you, she is getting those vibes from you. You have to show her love and get involved with her, to help her as a father, forget what other people want or think. You helped to bring this child into the world, you owe her fathership, don't shirk it. Children need their parents, both of them.
Your depression, the root of it? I would not care about the root, I would more so want to get rid out it. Look for the root later. You may help yourself in this regard, if you start to exercise. Since you are staying in bed a lot, then start there. Before you get up, start doing leg lifts, and arm swings, bend your knees and hit them together. Move your legs to the side. Do sit-ups. Do as many different exercises as you can, for as long as you can. Buy a jump rope and use it. The exercises begin to release endorphines from the brain, I may have spelled it wrong, but they are called "happy hormones". These hormones should make you feel better and chase away the depression, hopefully. You might also purchase Omega-3, and start to take it. This has been known to help with mood swings and is recommended by a doctor who treats people with it. I saw him on CNN. I use it for something else. Try these things, most of all, you should try to adjust your attitude. You are a young person, there are many people you could be helping, but you need to help yourself first. Go to http://www.socyberty.com/advice-first-take-care-of-yourself.43825 It may help as well.
Once you stand up again, because you are sitting on the ground in a sense right now, try looking for someone to help, a boy's club could use your help, a nursing home where you could read to the old people would be appreciated. Get outside of yourself, and give to someone else of yourself. I hope these things help you, one more
thing, start a journal to follow your progress. We need to analyze sometimes, to see where we should be going or to find out where we have been. Stay in touch. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): I'm so sorry you're feeling this way but remember it's NEVER too late to change your life. I would suggest finding a job first. Apply for different types of jobs (maybe even part time at first) and seek a counsellor to help you get on track.besides working, exercise, go out to the park, walk, run, listen to music, take care of your appearance, get a new hairstyle, eat new healthy food, get some new clothes, perfume ..to boost your confidence. you can even get a dog as a pet, take it out for walks, volunteer, that way you'll meet new people and eventually make friends. Hope all works out well for you, I'm sure it does if you try.
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