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writes:this has really worried me. my son is 15 and is in year 10 he has a girlfriend and she is also in year 10 but 14 year old.My son is in a gang and he has got in trouble various times which has really upset me anyway yesterday i came home from work and i heard banging from upstairs i immediately ran up the stairs as i thought he was being beat up i rush into the room and there he is in his bed having sex with his girlfriend. this has woried me a great deal i said imediatly get off her now and i hope your using condoms he said get out of my room they both got dressed and went out she seemed really embarrased but son doesnt talk to me much any more he didnt before but now its worse. i'm scared in case he gets her pregnant i dont know if he's using protection every time i ask him he just storms off in a huff and then today i found him just about to have sex with her well i think they were they were both in there underwear so that could only mean one thing i like his girlfriend a lot she seems nice i dont want her to see her get hurt by him he's had a lot of girlfriends but he seems to really see a lot in her so i guess what im asking is why is he being like this ?
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reader, 12345confused.com +, writes (20 March 2011):
12345confused.com is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help and no im not pretending to be the mum im acctually his mum
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 You need a gesture of goodwill to break the ice and show him you are on his side. Try buying him a box of condoms and putting them on his bed. Then maybe he will soften up enough towards you to listen to your other concerns.
But tread lightly and carefully so that you don't sound judgemental. Tell him you just want to help. Maybe ask him what he would like you to do.
If it is possible could you move to a new town. to get him away from his gang friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): the problem with alot of teens is that the more u tell them not to do something, the more they are likely to want to do it, but i also understand that to not talk to him would also be irresponsible. The reason he wont talk to u is probably because he is embarrased. If your really concerned and he wont talk then the only other thing u could do is to tell her parents that you know they r having sex and see if they can convince her otherwise, but just to warn u, this will probably turn u into bad cop for a very long time
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): It sounds like he lacks adult supervision and has been allowed to do what he wants.
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reader, crazystraw44 +, writes (20 March 2011):
Hun, we're teenagers. We love with all our hearts, we hate with all our hearts. We also struggle to keep it in our pants. Don't blame us, it's the hormones. Trust your son isn't stupid and is using condoms. If he really loves and respects her, they are using some form of protection. As for the leaving in a huff thing? He is embarrassed! No one wants their mum to question them about their sex life. Maybe have a conversation with his girlfriend? But you really have to trust that they are making the right decision.
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