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female
age
30-35,
*illu
writes:I belong to a family who does not approve of love relationship. My elder sister had love marriage and she and her husband always warn me not to follow their foot prints. She even said that if i fall into some relation then indirectly i am murdering her. But then i love this guy who is of my same age. Mum and dad thinks we are friends but still they do not like me talking with him. But i seriously think he is the one for me and now we are going to be in different states for our higher studies and he said long distance relationship wont work out so we will brake up now and when we are done with our studies we will get back. So we broke up n well we soon got back aswell. i dont know what to do. wheather i should stick with him o stick with my family. i want them both and so i am totally confused.
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reader, lillu +, writes (29 May 2010):
lillu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe said we will break up for while to get the things right i guss. Nyway he does not plan about leaving me ever again. He said that was a wrong plan and that is xactly why we got back again. And my sis is happy with her marriage . The reason she told me is that if you have love marriage their will b people to critisise you all the time. Nywayz thanks a lot 4 your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): Do what you want to do. Your sister is being a hypocrite. Don't live your life for your family. The love of my life left me to marry the girl his parents found for him. I was heartbroken. I went on to marry someone my parents chose for me.
9 years later I found out through friends that my ex is not happy and wishes he had not married his wife. I got divorced after 5 unhappy months and have been on my own for years.
Life is too short honey. If you love him, be with him. Your parents and sister will come around to the idea eventually.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): I'm very confused. He loves you but don't even want to try to have a long distance relationship? why? Why would he thing your relationship would work better if you split up for a couple of months and then go back together like those months never happened? From my experience (and looking on relationships friends have been in) this means something isn't all that good. His heart might not be that much in it as yours are. Do you think it's an equaly good idea to break it up and not even try long distance relationship? Be aware.
I don't know how strict it is with these sort of things in India, so I can't say if it's worth it or not. But since your sister already done what you want to do, look at her situation. Do you want to be in her situation? Then you might know the answer.
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