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Article - (24 May 2008) 29 Comments - (Newest, 7 June 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, Dr Vendetta writes:

Good Evening London.

Theres times when i come to this place and i lose all hope and faith in mankind.

It seems to be that time of year where the birds and the bees are at it.. how they manage that i'll never know.

And everyone if meeting new people and falling in wov and being all sickly and cutesie and making me want to vomit in the girls hair.

so a run down of my last few replys.

Towering wannabe jesus freak had affair with married man and is now on the path to religion. - as Ghandi said " if we weren't for christians i'd be christian"

fingering will make me pregnant?

your only excuse here is if you've been locked in a german cellar all your life.

and that kid who is 15 and wants to screw his teacher.

I admire his spirit but reality is a harsh mistress.

For 26 years i've been single. sure i've screwed around and had my fun, but there comes a time when change is needed. One of the biggest issues is How do people just hook up and it works? as a higher being i'm above almost everyone. why? you ask?

Well.. i'm better than everyone. i'm a good person. harsh, yes. but i have a decent soul much unlike my shoes.

now as a higher being i'm sorry girls but you're all mere mortals and it just ain't gonna work. my line of logic and reasoning is far beyond you level of thinking.

Pig headed? Egotistical? maybe. but why should anyone settle for second best. why should couples just get together for the sake of not being alone. only to find out.." oh crap we're married with kids and house and a toilet... and i'm misrible"

To all those in relationships that suck, to all those recently single. Stay single. Open your eyes and see the world and people for what it is and they are.

V

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008):

"but i guess the closing statement on it is, Don't hide your flaws and mistakes behind the face of religion leed by example." agreed.

-michael

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntTrue we are human and make mistakes.

and again. i'm not religious. and pretty much am against religion.. if you want it.. if you follow it.. i'm happy for you.

but i guess the closing statement on it is, Don't hide your flaws and mistakes behind the face of religion leed by example.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008):

*sigh* i do see your point but we are human and humans make mistakes no matter how perfect we try to be we will always make mistakes from time to time try and be more forgiving of people..although(and to my my surprise)i agree with you for the most part

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntI would like to bring this to your attention.

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-a-complicated-question-and-i-need.html

THIS, is exactsly what i was talking about..as well.

wanna be JC fan club members who signed up for the perks but didn't wanna put the work into it.

Religion from what i can tell is a Full time job. not part time.

again.. if you want your religion. fine. happy for you.. but don't suck at it.

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A female reader, Ashford angel United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2008):

i don't think of myself as a higher being i just do what i do and have a life if i have a caring side and morals so what i have a family to love that love me back and friends that we are all there for each other.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008):

ugh i must say i have to agree with you to an extent for the most part of my life i have tryed to be a "higher being"for i have always been single only i havent screwed around and had my fun..i can see where you believe what you do however your logic seems to be flawed it lacks being forgiving it lacks humanity's ability to forgive i have suffered the hell of being alone for 18 years and yet i dont date someone simply because i am lonely but not everyone is like that and thinking yourself a "higher being" just proves how you arent one we are ALL flawed in some way or another..just a couple things to remember "to error is human to forgive is divine" and"the first step to being wise is realising you arent"

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A female reader, Ashford angel United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

ever heard off the good samaritan act by the way i have helped a "tramp" and he thanked me for it and as i have also tried to get across don't judge a book by its cover. by the way if someone tries to sue you make sure you have evidence of all your actions and treatment the judge would most probably act in your favour. personally i could not walk on by but thats my nature. but one thing i have to ask when you see somthing do somthing even if it is just calling the emergency services and givethe emergency services space. what some people might find helpfull go along to your local st john ambulance or red cross then you can see what they do and make an informed judgement

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntits ok.

I love you too susan

it'll be our dirty little secret ;)

oh and more than likely. Helping people these days usually is followed by a law suite, ironic really

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A female reader, Susan Strict United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

Susan Strict agony auntI think it has everything to do with the original post.

But, unfortunately, on this occasion I reluctantly find myself leaping to the defense of the wicked Doctor.

The point, that I have a feeling he is trying to get across and that the last few posts seem to have missed completely, is in part at least that firstly we are too often far too simplistic in our views and secondly that we are too often far too rigid in our beliefs - which may be founded on misinformation.

The example of the body on the pavement is a good one. Certainly our immediate reaction should be to wonder whether that person needs help, and to provide it if needed. But, equally, we need to be aware that in the real world the body may well be a local vagrant sleeping off a hangover, and all we're likely to get for our pains is an elbow in the face and a string of vehement curses - or worse. The skill is to recognise the difference and, after checking and double-checking that we're right, to act accordingly. It's a point well made, and although our evil doctor reverts to the character he seems to prefer on here with his "what... doesn't give a crap?" (which I don't believe for one moment), he is quite right to make it.

And for what it's worth, I also believe in letting sleeping tramps lie. It's common sense.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony aunt"may i add don't be so quick to judge others "

oh and ..

"wrong. obviously you have no morals "

Wow. Thanks, you've Really changed my life. i'm gonna be a better person from now on.

Tramps don't like being helped or distured if they're sleeping. ie, in a door way.

Heres a riddle.

What has 2 thumbs and doesn't give a crap.

(points thumbs to self ) This Guy.

Come to think of it, what the hell does this have to do with the original post?

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A female reader, Ashford angel United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

wrong. obviously you have no morals it makes no difference if they look or smell like a tramp.

then you check for danger

check breathing if they are breathing put in recovery position if not do the following.

get help

give up to 2 rescue breaths

give 30 compressions.

even if they look and smell like a tramp it could be they are hypoglycemic because some not all act drunk before going unconcious and the breath can smell like alcohol or pear drops these are called keytones on the breath.

may i add don't be so quick to judge others no matter how different they are too you and get a better moral judgement because to be honest your attitude stinks.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntdefine lying, fetal position?

what cloths are they wearing. young old? male female?

if it looks like a tramp and smells like a tramp the its best to leave those guys alone. other wise ask if they're ok, if you get no responce, probably check for a pulse form there check if they're breathing and call the for a medic.

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A female reader, Ashford angel United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2008):

everyone calm down everybody has different opinons, religons and perspective on life and listen to each other and look at where each other is coming from. I bet if you all were to meet each other you would all find common ground whatever religon you are. All that matters is you have morals. I actually have a question for each and every one of you that have posted an answer yo the question asked, If you saw a person lying on the side of the pavement what would you do? (i do expect answers.)

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony aunt"From now on sex under the age of 14 is fine, sex with your teacher is healthy and adults should try cheating to keep their husbands and enhance their reputation."

The line starts back there :P

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008):

Are these questions fakes? Oh Heck, now I'm disappointed. I've gotten myself all worked up, angry and offensive, just to make some stupid kid happy.

Oh heck...... Well if this is a game, I'll play. From now on sex under the age of 14 is fine, sex with your teacher is healthy and adults should try cheating to keep their husbands and enhance their reputation.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (28 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntok i'm ending this here and now. you krazy kats.

here was me thinking the egotistical rant would have done it but turns out not.

"If it weren't for christians, i'd be a christian"

This is being used with refference to

" i'm a home wrecker. think i'll go join a religion "

Not "ooh No christians,,, ARRGGHH run for the hills and lock up your daughters a little boys"

I watched a tv program last night about the Super jesus freinds, this women is basicly telling these kids how Harry Potter would be burnt at the stake for being a witch and that muggles and goblins are unholy.

which.. yeah they probably are but i'm talking about extremists and wannabies people who don't practice what they preech.

Actually thats the point that should have been made in my original post.

Practice what you preech or enjoy life as an Infidel!

( note : Infidel - a person who has no religious faith; unbeliever.)

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A female reader, Twirly United Kingdom +, writes (28 May 2008):

Twirly agony auntActually, I must agree with Annalise here, the original post isn't particularly about religion, (in fact Im not exactly sure I understand what it is about as it's slightly confusing!) but I would like to point out that while I don't believe in following any one religion to the extreme because of the reasons I pointed out earlier, I do respect other people's beliefs and understand why they have them.

Where I think it all gets silly is when people fall out over different religions, even on a small scale lie us guys chatting on here. I find it ridiculous that anyone can get so worked up over defending one religion over another, when essentially they're all the same idea.

The only reason they're all different is because they all sprung up form different cultures around the world, and to fight about which one is 'right' is ludicrous to me.

It's all about common sense I think, something which seems sadly lacking when it comes to this subject!

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A female reader, Twirly United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2008):

Twirly agony auntOoo I was so not going to rise to this one and stick my two-pennoth in but I can't resist it!

People do shitty things to otehr people in the name of religion because they have done for years!

Religions are all man made philosophies, essentially created to keep law and order, to satisfy the human mind's need to explain why things exist, and to establish basic principles of right and wrong.

More people have been killed in the name of religion than anything else since mankind began and the corruption and greed that has permeated so many religions have rendered most of the original principles worthless.

Many religions also fall down because a lot of them have not moved with the times, eg now we know that dinosaurs existed, and the bible doesn't mention them because the people that wrote it didn't know about them!

It's basically all a load of rubbish!

That's my opinion! x

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntOk Ok Ok.

as all you ladies know i'm not on a witch hunt here, and several of you i've had a good laugh with on other posts on the site.

so.. is this my opinion? damn right, am i probably going to hell? yes. mainly because i can't play the harp.

as i said. people are welcome to believe what they will.

the issues i had was with... wannabe fake follows.

for those of you that are christians, are you not.. slightly annoyed or angry by that women who is having an affair and using your religion as a means to cover up the fact she's a home wrecker?

personally i find that offensive. and i'm not even religious.

but as i mentioned earlier. this is a discussion and i think it best its left here.

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A female reader, Susan Strict United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2008):

Susan Strict agony auntHow did you think that an article with a title that starts "Try Jesus..." wouldn't turn into a "religious thing"?

* puzzled *

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntI'm still amazed at how this turned into a religious thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

"don't want the boy dying in vain now do we?" That's quite offensive actually.

I'm sorry, this article is just working me up, not having a great day.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (26 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntok Annalisa. knowing you're a member of the JC fanclub, i actually have to say thanks for not trying to ram jesus down my throat.

Also i like how this has become about Religion all of a sudden... why christians?

well.. there was a recently post made, i commected on it and i used it in this article as an example.

do we wanna talk about johavas, mormans, armish, hindus, sikks heaven forbid us INFIDELS speak of the koran or Alaha, you know the burning and melting in a sea of holy fire.

as much fun as making fun od the muslim extremeists is they've become the target of choice liturally. i know several muslims and i think you're the Bomb!

they're nice people. as are chriatians..

however on both sides you have your crazied wanna be do gooders.. when in truth they're the worst of them all.

Also Jesus dying for our sins?

Well. i support jesus and sin daily. don't want the boy dying in vain now do we?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008):

I'm sorry, but I have to comment on "primitive biblical propaganda".

Why pick on christianity? You talk about stupid questions, or stupid people. Surely stupidity is picking a religion out of the blue, deciding your opinion on it and then stating it on the internet as fact? You are advertising your opinion as fact. This is what people believe christians do. Where's the difference between what you are doing and what they are doing?

And one last point. How much can one thread stereotype, eh? Christianity is the belief that Jesus died for our sins, and that if we ask for forgiveness, we will be forgiven.

It is not a type of person.

But I must thank you for posting, given me a good think and I have to admit, I did enjoy reading the article and replies made to it.

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A female reader, Susan Strict United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2008):

Susan Strict agony auntI disagree completely.

It doesn’t matter that many, many of the questions asked show a complete lack of basic knowledge and common sense. “Stupid” is subjective, and “stupid” is a label applied by those who do not understand and, more importantly, by those who do not want to understand.

It doesn’t matter if three-quarters of the questions are fake, or even if ninety-nine percent of them weren’t genuine.

If one, just one, out of a thousand questions is answered with advice that is a real help to whoever asked it, then that’s enough. That is all needed for all of this to be worthwhile, and that one question justifies this site and the time and effort that so many people put into trying to provide answers that might help.

Relationships are all-important. Relationships are what life is all about. Relating to others, whether it is a partner, family, friends or simply those around us, is a basic and fundamental part of human existence. It happens on so many levels, and one way or another all those levels are addressed here, somewhere.

And then we turn to the “primitive biblical propaganda”. Ah yes. The agenda of the Christians. It’s an easy target. The Christians are an easy target, particularly when those so-called Christians who shout their particular slant on Christianity the loudest are so often those whose views are the most bigoted, dogmatic and blinkered. “An empty pitcher maketh the most noise”, no doubt. Yet tarring all those whose beliefs are genuine and caring is as bigoted as the views of those who should quite properly be targeted for their narrow-minded interpretation of just how we simple humans should be living our lives.

Take another look at the primitive biblical propaganda. What a pity that such a wonderful book, the Bible, has been mistranslated, misinterpreted and taken out of context by so many for so long.

Have you read it? Few people have, other than those who have already made up their minds on exactly what it is saying before they have looked at a single word. Worse, focus of unfortunate mistranslations, particularly in the passages of the Bible dealing with sexual matters and relationships between men and women, has resulted in misunderstandings that have lasted for centuries - one of the most obvious being the alleged activities of a certain gentleman by the name of Onan, which are now accepted by nearly all linguistic scholars as having been a complete mistake in the way the story was translated.

It’s not propaganda. What IS propaganda is the way that parts of the Bible have been used by some people to justify a set of values that is repressive, exploitive, unnatural and downright nasty and damaging on occasions. These people are far from the “Christian” ideal they profess, but to assume that such intolerance and misguided attitudes apply to all Christians is to be as prejudiced as to be one of them.

There is one overriding principle of Christianity, and that is to have a genuine concern for the welfare of other people. That is also what we try to do and what this site tries to do. That is what is important, and that is what most of us here are trying to achieve one way or another. We only differ in the way we think that we and others should reach our goals.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntDr Pete,

i willagree with you there, you do raise a good point of possible brainwashing.. or being locked in a german cellar.

however. As for luck..

Luck had nothing to do with it. I'm not going to start spilling my past private life and say how i've had a great life or even a crap life. i've had it no easier and no harder than anyone else. i know many people who make my life like a fairy tail and vise versa.

the only difference being back then i only had myself to turn to. no friends and no family no professionals and certainly no internet.

i pushed through and learnt on my own.

And i agree.

there are no stupid questions.

just stupid people.

i don't believe ignorence is an excuse, as i pointed out we all have the power and knowledge of the world infront of us. if these people are lucky enough to have the internet why are they not using it? Granted they come here but still..

oh and

"primitive biblical propaganda"

I'm gonna stick that on a Tshirt

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008):

I agree with you, partially.

It is an annoyance to have a barrage of seemingly fake posters, and worse, an increasing loud voice from the religiously motivated; who masquerade their own disturbed and mistake-ridden life with well meaning yet nevertheless wholly primitive biblical propaganda and utter nonsense.

But despite these shortcomings of these contributions to this website, there are still thousands of people who are in very difficult situations that need a little help or guidance, and don't feel like they can get that anywhere else.

A case in point, the lady who asked if fingering would make her pregnant. I was rather shocked at how many people attacked her at what they saw as an obvious windup, or inexcusable ignorance. I remember being taught there is no such thing as a stupid question, and it’s probably something I would advocate today; as long as the question is meant well.

If these such people who criticised her knew that in huge areas where the religiously backward and far-right conservative organisations are advocating abstinence-only sex education for our youth culture, and doing so with surprising success, then they will not find it surprising that there are now groups of people in the developed world who know as much about reproduction as someone from a "developing" nation who has had no education.

“Dr Vendetta” you never really know the predicament of people who come for advice on this website. It might make you feel better about yourself to “be blunt” and truthful to them, but massaging your own ego could be detrimental to someone who is feeling vulnerable and needs help.

You have clearly had a certain amount of education, and access to enough resources and people in your life to not end up in a position where many of the people who write questions have. Rather than “be harsh if they are being stupid or a moron about the situation they’re in” you should perhaps remember that you have been lucky enough to have more opportunities in your life whereas these other people may not have.

In short, if you don't have anything constructive to say, then it is probably better not to say anything at all, because at best you could cause serious anguish and distress to an otherwise already fragile person. If you could save someone of that, by simply not clicking on a button, surely you could?

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2008):

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Dr Vendetta agony auntEric, i believe the piont i was making got lost in translation.

This place of do as you please, has become the place of believe what you will.

i understand that at leat 2/10 post are fake, ie a 26 year old woman asking if fingering her self will get her pregnant.

Granted this might account for all the new mum out there under the age of 16 but last time i checked thats not how the birds and bees do it.

We have 10 -12 year old girls saying i want to have sex, i want a baby, i want to use plastic wrap as a condom.

We have the power of the world. and Hundreds and hundres of multipul generations worth of knowldge and experience at our finger tips ( namely google ) and yet we still have these issues.

People wanna be gay/bi/straight/goth/hippie/rocker/relgious fine great. Fantastic. couldn't be happier for you. in fact lets throw a parade.

In closing. my Bitching for lost and wanting is not one of loss.

Wanting? sure. its good and healthy to want things. just when its not your first cousin.

I merely saying that for Everyone elses bitching and whining learn to be content with yourself and know who you are and what you want. Not to impress others and join the rat race.

btw. relationships are like socks. they get messy and then you change them :D

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A male reader, 2112EricYYZ Canada +, writes (25 May 2008):

2112EricYYZ agony auntdude relationships are like socks just cuz one pair dont fit doesnt meen they should give up trying to find the right pair. maby uve had a rough day maby u think that ur better than everyone else maby u yourself are heartbroken but dont take your anger out on us cuz in reality my friend ur no better than us sure u might be smarter than some of the people in her just cuz of your higher intelect doesnt meen u have to put us down some people are not sexually active so they dont know anybetter so leave them alone dont take ur anger and sorrows on us were all on this website for advice in relationships we all have one thing in common either we what to help someone with their problems or were just totally lost so who are u to bitch at us for being lost or wanting to help ppl hmmm?

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