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*ersey89
writes:My boyfriend broke up with me after being together for 9 months, we where very much in love and he asked me to leave college so we could be together. I took a year out and came home to be with him. Within a week of being home he ended it. He said he didn't love me and promised there was no one else. Another week passed and he was listed as in a relationship with another girl, and within a month they where engaged. This girl has a reputation for being a maneater and not stopping till she gets what she wants. He broke my heart and i cut him out my life for a good 4, and started seeing someone else after 3 months and went back to uni. My ex got in contact with me again and the chemistry is still there. Just before christmas he ended it with his gf as they weren't working and hes asked me to give him a second chance. In my head i know how much he hurt me, how he lied, how horribly he treated me and how i dont click with my current bf anywhere near as much as my ex. But my heart is telling me to give it another go, and i don't honestly know what is for the best.
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reader, rasher3  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 get rid he is not good enough for you ,if he thinks he can control you into taking time out of college,what else would he think he can get you to do,there plenty of nice guys out there .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Come on girl....if one of your best girlfriends told you a story like this, would you tell her to go for it and give this guy another chance after he treated you so horribly in your words?
What were you thinking, leaving universtity to come home and babysit your boyfriend? That right there speaks volumes about his character....Love is about friendship first and how well it takes care of each person's needs, love is a decision we make to be worthy of love by BEING a loving person towards our partner, putting their best interests first and putting their needs above our own a lot of the time....you put him first, but where does he show that he puts you first? He doesn't, he was insecure about you being at school, he did not care about your future or your education and he wanted you at home so he could simply keep an eye on you, then he had the nerve to dump you shortly there after for someone else. This woman is not a maneater, she did not relentlessly go after your boyfriend and mesmerize him and turn him into a zombie that couldn't think for himself....he did what HE WANTED TO DO.
Get real with yourself. Why is your self esteem so low that you think he deserves one second of your thoughts or attention? You may not be wise to go jumping into another relationship so soon after this breakup...no wonder you don't feel so much for the new guy, you need time to heal over what this first jerk did to you. Wise up. Get back to taking care of yourself and finish school, guys are just desserts.
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