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writes: hi i am 22 years old my fiance is 31 but he is leaving abrod and we will get married after 3 months but i have a problem his work is not workin too good and he has a lot of problem sure he doesnt have any savings to start our life but he never told anything but i knew this from his sister that he is always sitting at home and he is not working at all (he has a private business) those days he started to be so nervouse with me he always keeps on saying we cannot be with each others because his life is hard and i am freom a very good financial family and when i told him that this doesnt matter with me he started to treat me in a very rough way he can stay for days without answering my calls and this derive me crazy he doesnt tell me anything about his work really i donnt want to lose him but i dont know what can i do with him plz i need help
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (20 August 2006):
 Hi,
I empathise with your situation. Your fiance seems to be unstable financially and i know how frustrating that can be especially with a wedding coming up and plans for the future. You must understand that most guys want to be in a position where they can take care of their family, i am sure he isnt going to be too happy being totally dependent on your own family for support after the two of you get married.
Since you mentioned in your posting that you are in love with him,what i would advise is for you to have a talk with him if you can do that in person all the best.You guys should make a concrete plan, access the situation together and reach an agreement. Perhaps you can get a job near-by that will help, or put-off the wedding abit to ease the pressures on him until he is financially more buoyant, these are some of the issues both of you can raise.
Take care dearie, i wish u all the best.
Kelly
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