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writes:[MOD NOTE: This was posted as two separate questions but as they are so closely related I have posted them together]1. My girlfriend past is bothering me as well.Im 19 and i had sex with about 50 girls. I know thats bad but i try to make excuses because i am a guy and i always been single. My girlfriend is 20 and says she had sex with 20 guys. She also was in a 4 year relationship rite before she met me. Some of the guys she had sex with i know and they clown me for making her my girlfriend because they just had sex with her and that was it. She also lied about having sex with a couple of them too. what should i do or should i not even worry about it?2. My girlfriend gets mad at me because i wont let her go out to the club with her friends. Everytime she goes out to the club its always a problem. Either she wears something way to small and sluttish or she doesnt come rite home after the club. she also rode in a car with 2 guys and a girl to the club but one of the guys likes her and tried to kiss her before.I tell her not to go out to the club and neither would i. Am i being wrong or controlling about that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Don't be controlling. If she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat, but much less likely if she feels it's her choice and not yours. I agree, you were both slutty, so leave it at that. If you are both ready to be in a serious committed relationship now, than you are and if not then you're not. I'll tell you what though, I WANT to cheat on boyfriends that try to control me. I WANT to control me with boyfriends that trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Okay, first off...there are no "excuses" that make it okay for you as a boy, and I do mean BOY, to sleep with 30 people more than she has and then have the balls to try and judge her about HER past. No wonder you've always been single...most girls wouldn't hit that with a stick, let alone stick around for a long-term relationship. Me personally, the number of sex partners would be a less significant hang-up than the blatant hypocrisy on your part.If you're telling her what she can and can't do, then yes, you are controlling her. Right or wrong, it means you don't trust her and if your relationship is not founded on trust, what is its foundation? Sex? That evidently means little to either of you as both have shared it with so many others already.I think you should dump this girl and go looking for the elusive shy virgin who won't care that you've already slept with 50 women at the age of 19 and won't mind your rules about where she can go, and who with. And get tested for STDs while you're at it. Happy hunting!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Have you ever had a STI test? I think with that number of partners between you, you really need to.
As for the controlling thing well you are as bad as her for sleeping around. You either have to learn to trust her or dump her, but at the end of the day you are being hypocritical!
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Your being controlling also sad, She slept with 30 less than you and she's an year older. She could have a problem with YOUR PAST. I'm 19 and I would be so turned off by a guy like you, I would see you as a commitment phobe and possibly have a std. Harsh but it's what I think.
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