A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm struggling and trying really hard to trust my boyfriend. I am by nature a suspicious and paranoid person.. I don't really trust anyone and have never been in a relationship where I didn't snoop. My ex of 8 yrs used to laugh at me when I went through his phone in front of him. My current BF is a very private person though and has caught me snooping and gets really mad understandably.I know it's an awful thing to do. Especially when he has done nothing to warrant it. However I'm getting better and doing it less and less. It's highly irrational because I know deep down I have nothing to worry about. But sometimes I get highly panicked when I feel out of control. How do I just be laid back and learn to let it go? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): Hi. Have you spoken to him about what your feels are about and where they stem from? Something will be at the root of this in your past. Its really important he knows this isn't about him or anything he's doing, and that you are aware he's doing nothing wrong but you have these 'moments' of overwhelming jealousy and insecurity. Try and reach a compromise- tell him to put a lock on his phone yi stop you in these moments as you realise it isn't right or fair for you to snoop, and ask him to support you with getting help to explore the root cause
A
female
reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (26 June 2015):
Have you tried CBT(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)?
...............................
|
