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writes: i have a friend who met this guy who is eight and half years older then her, she met him when she was three. they sorta grew up together, he was so much like a big brother to her growing up she always sat in his lap and hold his hand and she played with him and she told me that she used to get a spray bottle of water and "style" his hair, she was thirteen when i met her, she was very mature for her age, physically and mentally, people would always think she was 16-19. anyway,we became really good friends and when she came to my house to spend the night one time i asked her if she had a crush on anyone, she said "Sorta, but i cant tell you" i kept pestering her until she finally said "okay! its Jason!" there was only one Jason we both knew who it was, by then he was 22, i thought it just a crush but then i saw the look in her eyes, "oh my gosh, are you serious? hes too old! he hasnt done anything to you has he?" "No" she said, "he would never do anything like that, even if he did you know i wouldnt." no she wouldnt, the boys at school asked her to go out plenty of times, even some of the good catches. now i knew she said no to all of them. "I dont really look at boys the same, i only see him" i thought she was crazy, she saw me roll my eyes "No really! ive known him long enough to know how he acts and that he would be a good father, hes really respects everyone especially me. weved talked about it and he said that he sees what hes always wanted in a soul mate but he wont do anything about except wait till im ready to marry him, i told hes got about seven years of a wait, but hes okay with that, he not like other guys his age he doesnt go to clubs or have stripper girlfriends, actually hes nver had a girlfriend, (i wonder if that has to do with me,) he doesnt even drink! never had a drop in his life! hes really old fashioned, his whole family is, hes just so perfect! hes everything i look for. it's not even really romantic or anything... yet, but hes my best friend besides you" I was shocked i really didnt know what to say i still thought she was crazy, but the years went by and they became closer friends he was there for her all the time to comfort her the older she got the more i saw how right they were for eachother. she didnt think it was a huge deal because her parents are ten years apart, the only difference is that shes known him all her life. When she was twenty and he was 28 they got married and they are expecting their first child. when i tell people this they are shocked and some are even disgusted, could somebody tell me if this is wrong? does anyone have a problem with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): only a 8 year age gap. some people grow up with each toher and this turns into love at an earl age. may make for a good movie though.nothing sexual happened while she was a child. i think this man valued your friend and he "waited" for her to grow up. sounds like a love story to me. there is a seven year age gap between my hb and myself. i met him when i was 19, he was 26. we are now married for almost 18 (good)years. not the same as your friend, but just as special. sometimes you just know when the other person i your soulmate, your friend knew this at an early age and her knight in shining armour did not disappoint her. he loved her enough to wait for her.
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reader, BehindThese HazelEyes +, writes (7 August 2009):
 I dont think its wrong...my bf and I are 12 year apart, im 21 ad hes 33...like everyone ele has said...theyre two consenting adults and I hope it woks out for them...id like to marry my bf someday too, hes treated me better then any man ive ever dated....and hes more mature too so i say good luck to the two of them!
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