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*lleo
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for fifteen months now. I accidentally fell pregnant the first time we had sex from a failed morning after pill and had an early termination as my mother had just died and I didn't think I would cope (I have four teenage children already). Not a day goes by when I don't think about it. I cry and find it difficult to cope when I see a pregnant woman or a baby.In some ways my boyfriend has been great. He has supported me through my grieving. However, he has never said I love you. We have talked about it and the response has been that he doesn't love me, he has never loved anybody and he isn't sure he ever will because he doesn't understand it. Also, he has problems ejaculating; it can take up to an hour if it happens at all. I think maybe this is through fear of getting me pregnant again but he won't discuss it. We only have sex a couple of times a month, if that.He says he cares about me a great deal and his family and friends have told me that he has never been this close to anybody before. They say to be patient with him because he has been alone for so long. I have thought about ending it but am scared to because my Mum isn't around to pick up the pieces. The thought of this ending really hurts. I love him to bits.I really want to have another baby now, I want him to love me and I want to know this is going somewhere. Should I be patient or get out now?
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reader, clleo +, writes (25 June 2010):
clleo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer - yes he does treat me well and I think really cares about me. Patience isn't one of my virtues, perhaps I should start learning x
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (24 June 2010):
Hey HoneyMany men are happy to say "I love you" but their actions are not of Love.Does your boyfriend act and treat you right? If this relationship has all the ingredients to keep you happy then just be patient.If not, why waste time?Have you and your partner spoken about having children together? If he's a keeper have a talk and see where he stands on the matter..Good luck and keep us updated x
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