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writes:my husband and i have been togther for fifteen years now we have 3 children. he recently cheated on me with a girl he works with about ten years younger then me, she was well aware of me and our children but she pursued him anyway. and yes she pursued him. he has never cheated on me before she just made him feel good about himself and the newness he liked. well after a thankfully brief affair he ended it. i knew about it when it was happening. it was horible! she let him be for like two weeks then she started bothering him again and i confronted him about this, then it stopped. but every once in a while she will send him a message on his cell. he ignores them, but i think she still bothers him at work? how can he get her to leave him alone for good? -she has and had a boyfriend this whole time.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (12 March 2009):
 I'm happy to hear it, too. It's good to know that things turn out well sometimes!
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reader, lovingcouple +, writes (26 February 2009):
lovingcouple is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust figured id let you guys no that everything is good and he is no longer at his previous job. she is gone out of our lives for good! we are getting alone great. thanks!
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reader, lovingcouple +, writes (17 February 2009):
lovingcouple is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni no theres no excuse, my husband has depression and was not on meds but now he is. he has told her to leave him alone and she does pretty much except an occasional text. i think she just tests him to see if she can get back with him? i text her as myself and so far shes gone. i no he could spin it any way he wanted but i really dont think he's lyin any more. he's not a good liar! he's been doin everything he can to make this up to me and he says he wishes it never happened and i believe him. we kinda let things get predictabl, but now we cant keep our hands off each other. im really not asking if i should go or anything like that. just wanted some advice on how to get the thick headed girl to go. but everything is really good between us! i no he shouldnt have messed up from the beginig and so doesnt he! hes even looking for a new job. wich at his level probly isnt gonna be easy. thanks for everything!
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reader, femalecupid00 +, writes (17 February 2009):
if you husband wanted this to stop it would. it really sounds like a bunch of excuses to me. the boss is single... he could care less.......the boyfriend was kicked out...... and she already told him about it.... telling people will embrass your husband. did he care about making a fool out of you........ cheating on you. now you cant get the girl out of your lives. seems to me you care alot more than he does. and another thing was it your husband that told you all this "misleading" information. when hes the one who knows and is with holding the truth he can twist it and give it to you anyway he likes. dont believe everthing or for that matter anything coming from his mouth. do what you feel you have to do! ITS TIME TO WORRY ABOUT YOU!
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reader, femalecupid00 +, writes (17 February 2009):
if you husband wanted this to stop it would. it really sounds like a bunch of excuses to me. the boss is single... he could care less.......the boyfriend was kicked out...... and she already told him about it.... telling people will embrass your husband. did he care about making a fool out of you........ cheating on you. now you cant get the girl out of your lives. seems to me you care alot more than he does. and another thing was it your husband that told you all this "misleading" information. when hes the one who knows and is with holding the truth he can twist it and give it to you anyway he likes. dont believe everthing or for that matter anything coming from his mouth. do what you feel you have to do! ITS TIME TO WORRY ABOUT YOU!
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reader, lovingcouple +, writes (13 February 2009):
lovingcouple is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys! i know he is to blame! i didnt mean to sound like it was all her fault. everyone at work already knows because she has a big mouth! she told them as it was happening. & the business is small so i really dont think it would do any good to talk to his work, i really dont think they would care! its a single guy who owns it. & i dont know but im told that she kicked her bf out the day after she gave my husband her #. but they are back together now that things are "done"? & supposably she told her bf? i doubt she told the complete truth? i think my husband is a scumbag for doing this! i dont understand because its not ever been in his nature? im sure if i told her bf that she would tell evryone at work & just try to make me sound like im a pysco & that would embarrass my husband even more? then my husband would be mad im sure & i dont know that it is or isnt worth it? i do want to stay with him but i want her to be out of our lives! i wish shed quit her job! i wouldnt mind him leaving his either but thats not likly?
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reader, femalecupid00 +, writes (13 February 2009):
YEA I AGREE ^^^ he can go to human resources or find away to contact her boyfriend im sure he wont be happy to hear about any of this. or you can even do both just so the job is aware. and you husband is to blame no matter if she seduced him or not, she didnt put a gun to his head. so dont be so naïve and make excuses for him. make him look for another job if he really wants to get away from her! he shouldnt have messed up from the begining!!!!!
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (12 February 2009):
Tell your husband that in order to reassure you that he will not repeat his affair with her, you want him to tell her explicitly not to contact him on a personal basis ever again.
He's a grown up man--I'm sure he can figure out how to say it so she knows he means it. If he's really at a loss, suggest he threaten to go to the company's Human Resources department and file a sexual harassment complaint against her.
I think you're doing fine, considering what you've gone through. Best of luck to you.
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