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writes: Why do people think that they can treat you any kind of way because you try to be nice and mature. I work at a place with a lot of imature and low down people. My supervisor is the same age as my mother and and acts more like a 15 year old. Since I have been out there I have always had trouble out of her. I tried to get off her shift, but the higher boss wouldn't let me because people accused me of relationship with the other supervisor. My supervisor is the type who wants all the men's eyes on her. I don't care as long as its not someone I'm dating. She met my ex and flirted with him when we were together,in which I have forgiven her. Thats her if she needs that much attention, as for me the man I love is enough attention for me. This lady has known me for 18years longer than anyone on the job.If one of the guys say I carry myself in a proffessional she says something negative. I can't say anything around her without it getting out even something small. She's into clicks ; I'm into just treating everybody fair. I don't want to have to gossip and talk dirty to fit in and I won't. I have had some ruff times on her shift,because she is able to pull most of the new into her click. I sat in my office praying while her and the 3 men that work on our shift sat outside and talk about me. this lady has also pulled other women on other shifts into her click, But she doesn't want to replace me with none of them. One of them won't come to work on time and the other two she is immtimadated by them, because they are the more wild type that will tell her off, but I just try to be proffessional. This woman use to have cookouts and invite everybody but me, in which I didn't want to go anyway, then at one point when all her click friends left the job she invited me. NO, I didn't go but if she needs me for something important I go like when she was sick. When I was sick and out of work for a month ,she never asked how I was doing ,but when the guys stated out for a day she asked them. I don't understand her ,she runs to me for advice and tells me things that I could really mess her life up with and then gives me less consideration than anyone. At one point I just stop talking to her at all accept work related issues. When I truly forgave her I talked to her, but not to be her friend but to be fair. Now, this lady thinks I want to be her friend and that she can say things to me like she use to and and unload heer garbage on me. I know for a fact that I cannot trust her. Should I go back to just woked related to until I find a way to get off her shift. Please pray for 6 years of her crap is enough for me.
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reader, malvern  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 There are three things you can do here. Make a formal complaint to a higher authority such as her manager, make an application to be placed onto another shift or find another job in another company. It's horrible to have to work in a bad atmostphere. Failing all that you should just 'rise above the situation' and not be sucked into her petty ways. Unfortunately there are a lot of people like her in the workplace, but that's just what it is ... a 'workplace'. Just put your head down, get on with your work and try not to let this womans behaviour get you down until you can move on to something better.
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