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writes:I need advice. Two of my best friends havn't spoken to each other since early january. I have been trying to hang out with both of them. well kat (not real name) decided that i had to choose who i was going to stay friends with. and i told her that i didn't want to choose. but she wouldn't let it go so i told her that if i had to choose it would be lilith (once again not her real name) because we have been friends since we were two years old and in the year and a half i've known kat she has tried to stop being my friend about four times. and that i was tired of coming to school afraid that she would be mad at me for no, or a very stupid, reason. she said that she respects my desision and its nice to know who her real friends are. she has not talked to me since. what do i do??? I can't stand not being able to talk to her!
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reader, laurenb12313  +, writes (13 April 2010):
This happened to me a couple of weeks ago, just let your friend 'Kat' know that you want to stay friends with both of them and if she doesn't like it; then tell her that you can get better friends then, no real friend would make you choose, but try talking to her, telling her how you feel, tell her your that upset you asked us. Your best option is just to carry on your life and live without her, because if she's willing too, then don't back down. Your not worth her breathe. x Good Luck x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 April 2010):
 You know, any friend who forces you to choose is not a very good friend. So, don't beg for her back. A friend should not stress you out like this, make you feel bad and worry if you've angered her and if you're "breaking up" again... so, be grateful that she exited gracefully and if she's ever ready to stop being immature, she knows where to find you.
Good luck, sweetness! Don't waste your time with people who drain your energy. It's just not worth it!
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reader, rambini +, writes (13 April 2010):
 you should be grateful that you got rid of her sooner rather than later, she is not a real friend to you at all, so her statement is as true for you as it is for her. friends should support you and make you feel good about yourself, not make you feel upset or hurt or worried. anyone who gives this sort of ultimatum is not worth your time or effort, she is just an attention seeking child who could not stand the fact that someone was such good friends with a girl she hated. lilleth deserves your friendship and support, kat deserves none of it. she hates lilleth and so is just trying to turn everyone else against her too so that lilleth will have no friends. it is spiteful and unkind and i am glad lilleth has such a good friend in you.best of luck x
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