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writes: Hi Everyone! Im 23 and ive been in a relationship with a girl (lets just call her girl A, she's 26 now) for almost 6 years now! We were going out really well, and everything was wonderful for 2 year until she decided to move out of the country to work! Thinking i was strong enough to withstand a long distance relationship and thought it would be good test of how strong our feelings for each other, i agreed about her leaving the country! 1 year has passed since she left, and i started going out with my friends again. And at that time, i realized i was too weak to resist temptations when my GF and I are far away from each other. I tried everything i could to resist, but failed. so i engaged in some fling relationships and most of their were purely sexual and no commitment. Whilst doing all those things, im still sure, that i love my GF so much! and i dont want to lose her! We also have plans that we would get married that she'll bring me with her when the right time comes!so i carried on until 2 years has passed. i couldn't hold the guilt and decided to be honest with her. to my surprise, she still accepted me! she understood me, and thought it was because were far! she asked me to promise that ill never do it again! and i did!however 10 months ago, i met a really beautiful girl (girl B, 17 years old), i had a deep crush on her! i wasn't even aware that i was already making a move on her! and one day i confessed and also found out that she liked me! she's really sweet like my GF, thoughtful, honest and faithful). we hooked up for 10 months through a hidden relationship! As we continued our relationship, i began to have deep feelings for her, causing my feelings for girl A to fade! Then one day, Girl B decided to break up with me coz she couldn't take it anymore, being only a replacement! After hearing this, i was devastated and even cried! i couldn't accept the fact that i was going to lose her even tho i know i still have girl A. I finally realize that im already really in love with girl B. I knew that i had to make a decision. Going through with my feelings, i decided to be honest with girl A, again she was so considerate and kind that it hurts. She said things like she's happy if im happy! If i really love girl B then go for it. And we broke up! A day passed and I realized that Girl A is gone, After realizing that, My Heart just started beating again for Girl A. I Couldn't accept the fact that she's gone! and we've had so many great moments. What i decided now was to be alone. I told both girls that ill be breaking all communications with them for awhile and try to see who im really gonna miss, think of and need and love the most!I am seeking for more advice! Please help me on this problem! i still dont know which decision to make since both girls are so dear to me! and i love them both so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): girl a is a much better person than me or you i would have put you through hell and you should already be there w/your thaughts.the other girl girl b would she be so understanding?proby not she would be like me.you have already got your answer but you are too blind by lust to see.you dont deserve girl a.take girl b and have fun while it lasts,she's young and fresh right!honest and faithful!moreso than you i hope,for your sake anyway cause thats what really matters huh!you and what you want.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 You say you love them both, but you don't really because if you really loved either of them then you wouldn't be able to cheat. Those basic instincts to be with other women just fade right away when you are truely hooked on someone. I was apart from my husband for over a year and a half while we sorted out his visa. Two guys hit on me when he was away but I didn't cheat because I would have hated myself afterwards if I had betrayed him.
If you have any feelings for these girls, then you just have to leave them alone as they deserve to be treated with respect. You say that you were gutted when girl B left you, but knew you had girl A as a back up. When she left too, no one was paying you any attention and that is the key to your need for two girls at once. You are mistaking the need for female attention for love. Let these girls go, sort out your own head as a single man and learn from your mistakes when the next girl comes along who takes your fancy.
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