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writes:my ex bf wants me out of his life and i cant let go. i really am confused.i had been with my ex for about 1 1/2 years when we split. about 3/4 months before the end of our relationship my bf (at the time) introduced me to a good friend of his. we soon became really close friends. about the same time as this happened my sex drive almost died, i rarely wanted any sexual pleasure i just wanted to give.things happened between me and my ex and i decided to end it. we had previously been on a break. me and my ex never really stopped talking and we were just friends. until the other day he told me he doesnt want me in his life anymore as it hurts him to see me as he still has feelings for me.i have started to feel things for the friend he introduced me to. i did not feel anything for him whilst i was with my ex. my ex now blames it on him.it is so hard for me to just delete my ex from my life. what am i meant to do?!i really feel that me and this friend have something. but i am left with this HUGE dilemma.help anyone?xxx
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Take a few steps back and let yourself be single for a bit. If the new guy really likes you he will give you some time to figure out what you should do. Let your ex see that it really isn't his friend's fault that you two split.
Try to figure out why you lost the sex drive you had. Put that into perspective. Think about what you might have done during the time when you met the new friend that could have caused the ex to think it was his fault.
It sounds as if he is having a problem letting go of the relationship you two had. He possibly loves you and can't deal with you having someone new in your life, especially his friend because of the way you two met.
Give the dating scene a break for a few weeks, hang out and do things in the public view. Don't ignore your ex if he wishes to talk to you, just be kind and try to understand that he may be dealing with alot of hurt from the breakup.
He is feeling betrayed by his friend too I would imagine. He needs time to let this notion be disproved by the actions of both you and his friend.
Remember that everything in it's proper place and time will make for a better ending for everyone. The best of luck to you and God bless you with knowledge to make the right decision.
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