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*ayytayy1997
writes:Im torn between 2 guys the first guy i have known since secondgrade and we have been a off and on again couple since 5th grade. I still have strong fellings for him and we have been broke up since september. The second guy i met this year and we have been in a strong relationship since feburary. Here recently guy #1 told me that he loved me and he even told my mom that he did and now i dont know what to do. I have strong fellings for both but do i go with a guy number one who i have known for a while and is a year older, or do i go with guy number two who i have a strong relationship with for now and have known for a year and that is a year younger some body plz help i need adivce!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): well then my dear you are indeed lucky to have a sweet guy number two who cares about you:)
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reader, tayytayy1997 +, writes (9 June 2011):
tayytayy1997 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well thanks you guys that replied and helped me :) im staying with guy number two and guy number one is okay with being friends :) guy number two is the guy that has the personality that i want surruding me :) his family is supportive in me and so is he. he listens to me. Yall are all nice people that helped me and i know im younger but i have been heart broken from both guys and my own father so im just torn in all parts of my heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Well you should start by asking them both questions, such as how long would you like to be my boyfriend for, to find out what kind of future plans they might have. And this will help eliminate any potential weaknesses or character flaws, so you can find out for sure which is the best guy for you. Try and make a good decision that you feel you can live with for years to come.
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reader, dummyduckling  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 woah woah woah! hold on sweetheart ok you havent specified your age but your only young, there should be no reason to worry about boys at your age! but if your in a good relationship with guy 2 then id stay with him, there is no point dumping a good relationship to go back to one thats already failed at least twice, been there done that and have the emotional scars to prove it. your probably better off for now where your at, just tell the first lad that you tried to make it work between you and it just wasnt happeneing, that and you've known him so long you dont want to ruin the friendship you have. and if he doesnt understand that then im sorry he just isnt worth the time. i really hope this helps hun x
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reader, amber123 +, writes (8 June 2011):
Both guys sound lovely, but go for guy number 2#. Why? Because if you liked guy 1 so much then you'd have never had liked guy number 2. Does this make sense? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Which boy has a personality that you want to surround yourself with.
Which social circle is more attractive?
Who makes you feel the best?
Who is a better listener?
Who would protect you the best?
Im guessing these are some of the things you would need to think about if your really torn.
Its hard to advise anything other than that given the amount of info we know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Who makes u happier? Again notice how u said u were an on and off relationship with guy #1. That doesnt sound stable.
U already have something with guy #2 that is strong, or is it?
U need to be with someone that u know makes u happier and be there for u when u need him.
I say stay with guy #2 and if things dont work out go to guy #1. u have something strong with guy2 so dont mess things up. Appreciate what u have and if not then go with guy1.
Its all up to u, good luck. Hope i helped.
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reader, jdd +, writes (8 June 2011):
I think if you are torn between two guys that neither one is the "right" one for you. I think at your age a serious relationship is more than you need. This is a time to be young, free, and learn who you are and enjoy yourself. as far as the guy who said he loves you ---- I see that you are 13-15, so he is no older than 16?? --- I have yet to meet a mature 20 year old (or even some 30+ year old) men that have the maturity to say those words and truly grasp what those words mean.
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